[bksvol-discuss] Re: resigning from the volunteer list
- From: "Christina" <greensleeves1@xxxxxxxxx>
- To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Wed, 9 Sep 2009 15:58:10 -0400
Hi, folks.
I agree with Amber.
The message I've gotten today seems to be "It's ok for people to be rude
because we need to have thicker skins or just ignore it."
I disagree with both points. Rudeness shouldn't be permitted. There are ways
of saying things diplomatically and clearly without being rude or hurtful. And
ignoring the behavior says that we approve of it. And, if we approve of this
behavior, what reason is there for anyone to change.
I'm not suggesting that people refuse to post or that they couch their
suggestions or criticisms in tons of platitudes. What I am suggesting is that
people try to be mindful of what they are saying. When we're talking to
someone, we communicate so much by tone and body language. When we send
e-mails, we have only our words which, taken by themselves, can be very
subjective.
Another message I'm getting is "It's ok for people to be rude because they
proof/scan a lot of books." Does this mean we earn the right to be rude? I
hope that's not what was meant. Should people be given more leeway if they
volunteer more? This doesn't seem fair to me. I hope that we are perceived as
a welcoming, supportive, and helpful community that values all of its
volunteers from the newbies to those people with several hundred books to their
name.
Just my two cents.
Christina
----- Original Message -----
From: Amber Wallenstein
To: bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Wednesday, September 09, 2009 3:03 PM
Subject: [bksvol-discuss] Re: resigning from the volunteer list
I have a question for you all to consider here. Please do not think I have
gone half-cocked here, for I assure you this is not the case. I have spent
hours thinking of the best way to put this and I put the question to the
volunteer community as a whole.
Let us say I'm a new volunteer. I am excited about joining Bookshare's
volunteer team, but I don't really know what I'm doing. I decide to join the
BKSVOL list to get some tips. I write in with a series of questions.
Meanwhile, I am also seeing messages from others flying back and forth across
my screen. I as a new volunteer may not know what it means, but I am smart
enough to get the tone of the message. Some people seem very friendly, but
there are those whose messages seem rude, to put it frankly. Then the answers
to my questions start coming in. Some seem OK but then there are others, like
E.'s messages that we all know about. As a new volunteer, maybe I now feel
like I shouldn't write into this list anymore for advice. After all, if I get
a snarky response to my first question, what will happen when I submit further
queries?
Let's face it folks. We were all newbie volunteers at one time or another.
In fact, some of us still are. Why are people not being treated as they should
be? Are we saying it's OK for rude and "brusque" and I put that in quotes
behavior tolerated? Aren't all volunteers afforded the same right to be treated
with courtesy and tolerance? Why is it that a few people can be rude and
intolerant, scaring off dozens of volunteers over the years.. Why is that OK?
Because they proof hard-to-proof books? Don't we as a community have more
respect than that? No matter how hard one works, or what books they tackle, is
that an excuse for rude and off-putting behavior? Aren't we as volunteers doing
a huge disservice to those who have joined? Saying to a newbie, or heck,
anyone, "Well you know what? Their messages are rude, or brusque, but don't
worry, they have gotten better, and you should just ignore the behavior"...
That's enabling. We as a volunteer community are enabling rude behavior. We
have ignored the problem for years. Has it gotten better? No, it does not
appear as it has gotten any better. The rude behavior is continuing, with no
end in sight. and with the "ignore it and it will go away" attitude most people
here seem to have, the behavior is being enabled. Now the behavior has been
addressed and you are begging rudeness to return? Why?
\ If this person were someone we worked with, and every time you came to
their desk, if you got a "brusque" response, would you continue to come back?
Probably not, at least I know I would not. I don't know why volunteering is any
different. Volunteers are being driven away, and this is OK? I beg to differ.
If we are adults, as so many on this list have said, why are we not acting like
it, curbing out words, thinking about what we say, and treating others with
COURTESY and respect?
Amber
Book blog:
http://community.livejournal.com/book_cuddler/
I have accepted a seat in the House of Representatives, and thereby have
consented to my own ruin, to your ruin, and to the ruin of our children. I give
you this warning that you may prepare your mind for your fate.
John Adams
E-Mail: amber.wallens@xxxxxxxxx
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