Dear Mariann -
Welcome to ConstellationTalk! One of the special characteristics of our
virtual community is we encourage and tolerate a great range of diversity.
Members come from every continent, speak different mother tongues, work in a
variety of professions, have varying degrees of experience with the
Constellation process, and embrace differing personal mythologies.
Your question opens a topic that has been sitting with me for some time. My
view is that Bert Hellinger's ideas are easily misinterpreted. Or perhaps,
they are being correctly interpreted and I disagree.
He says there is no good and bad, no right and wrong in the dimension of the
spirit-mind. This is quite different from saying there is no good and bad,
no right and wrong. The distinction is that we do not wake-up in the
morning, commute to work, shop for groceries, call our Mums, argue with our
siblings, become annoyed with our partners, brush our teeth, and get to bed
in the dimension of the spirit-mind. Except for spiritual masters (and even
then), we live our days in the ordinary slip-slide of good and bad, right
and wrong.
When people come to me asking for a Constellation, my aim is not plant them
in transcendent harmony with the spirit-mind. If they can catch a glimpse
of it from the corner of their eye, I have done my job. They bring concrete
issues and concerns. The Constellation helps them see the possibility of a
healing movement that can unfold in the ordinary dimension of day-to-day
life and relationship. Good and bad, right and wrong are abundant in this
dimension.
What is there to heal? That is always my first question. That is my focal
point when the Constellation begins. It is the destination where the
Constellation is aimed. It is how I assess the quality of my interaction.
If I dare to step into the greater spirit-mind dimension, it is only to put
my toe in for a few moments, not to set up residence.
Others members of ConstellationTalk are on different spiritual paths and
operate from different personal mythologies. I am only speaking for myself,
not attempting to cover Bert's words with a blanket.
Good question!
Dan
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] 2 questions about the teachings of Hellinger
Hello,
I am a new member on this discussion group, and as such, my questions may
not fit with your topics of discussion. The only way to find out if that is
the case is by sending you my questions I pondered during the 2008 November
workshop of Bert Hellinger in Kentucky.
Bert opened his workshop by saying that "there is no good and bad, no right
and wrong" as all events have been thought out by the "intelligent mover",
the "Spirit-Mind", and all events serve a larger picture that we cannot
comprehend. If that is the case, if there is no right and wrong, then, what
is there to heal?
Perhaps Bert answered this question on the last day of the workshop when he
talked about images, and how images create humans' reality, which are not
the same "reality" as the spirit-mind dimension. So maybe we need to heal
these broken images that make up our reality until we realize that it is OK
to leave these images behind and we dare to step into the greater
spirit-mind dimension where these hurts are no longer relevant.... What do
you think?
The second question I have is how one should conduct one's life so we won't
pass on to the next generations our burdens that will entangle those future
lives? Should this be a goal? Or am I just trying to influence something
that is beyond my control?
Please be kind to me if my questions are not within your topics.
Regards,
Mariann
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