Dear Vinay –
Thanks for sharing this beautiful quote from Jung. Here in the US, the practice
of psychiatry and psychotherapy couldn’t be further from acceptance of the
patient as they are. Only a small fraction of practitioners here are able to
completely avoid taking insurance payments. To participate in the health
insurance system, the practitioner must begin with a diagnosis of a treatable
condition. The DSM V, the bible of mental health disorders, is a compilation of
condemnation. Every diagnosis is a judgement of moral failure because the
standard of mental health is essentially a standard of moral rightness.
Is it is possible to follow Jung’s call for a stance of “unprejudiced
objectivity” while engaging in the practice of mental disorder diagnosis and
treatment? As one who only offers Constellations and does not take any form of
insurance, I find the diagnostic labels clinically useless and instruments of
condemnation.
Dan
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Accepting what is
I wanted to share with you all a beautiful quote by Jung:
People forget that even doctors have moral scruples, and that certain patient’s
confessions are hard even for a doctor to swallow. Yet the patient does not
feel himself accepted unless the very worst in him is accepted too.
No one can bring this about by mere words; it comes only through reflection and
through the doctor’s attitude towards himself and his own dark side. If the
doctor wants to guide another, or even accompany him a step of the way, he must
feel with that person’s psyche. He never feels it when he passes judgment.
Whether he puts his judgments into words or keeps them to himself makes not the
slightest difference.
To take the opposite position and to agree with the patient offhand is also of
no use but estranges him as much as condemnation. Feeling comes only through
unprejudiced objectivity. This sounds almost like a scientific precept, and it
could be confused with a purely intellectual, abstract attitude of mind. But
what I mean is something quite different.
It is a human quality, a kind of deep respect for the facts, for the man who
suffers from them, and for the riddle of such a man’s life. The truly religious
person has this attitude. He knows that God has brought all sorts of strange
and inconceivable things to pass and seeks in the most curious ways to enter a
man’s heart. He therefore senses in everything the unseen presence of the
divine will.
This is what I mean by “unprejudiced objectivity.” It is a moral achievement on
the part of the doctor, who ought not to let himself be repelled by sickness
and corruption. We cannot change anything unless we accept it.
Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses. I am the oppressor of the person
I condemn, not his friend and fellow-sufferer. I do not in the least mean to
say that we must never pass judgment when we desire to help and improve. But if
the doctor wishes to help a human being he must be able to accept him as he is.
And he can do this in reality only when he has already seen and accepted
himself as he is.
Perhaps this sounds very simple, but simple things are always the most
difficult. In actual life it requires the greatest art to be simple, and so
acceptance of oneself is the essence of the moral problem and the acid test of
one’s whole outlook on life.
That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy in the
name of Christ, all these are undoubtedly great virtues. What I do unto the
least o’ my brethren, that I do unto Christ.
But what if I should discover that the least amongst them all, the poorest of
all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders, yeah, the very fiend himself,
that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own
kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved. What then?
Then, as a rule, the whole truth of Christianity is reversed: there is then no
more talk of love and long-suffering; we say to the brother within us “Raca,”
and condemn and rage against ourselves. We hide him from the world, we deny
ever having met this least among the lowly in ourselves, and had it been God
himself who drew near to us in this despicable form, we should have denied him
a thousand times before a single cock had crowed.
Anyone who uses modern psychology to look behind the scene not only of his
patients’ lives, but more especially of his own life—and the modern
psychotherapist must do this if he is not to be merely an unconscious
fraud—will admit that to accept himself in all his wretchedness is the hardest
of tasks, and one which it is almost impossible to fulfill.
The very thought can make us sweat with fear. We are therefore only too
delighted to choose, without a moment’s hesitation, the complicated course of
remaining in ignorance about ourselves while busying ourselves with other
people and their troubles and sins. This activity lends us a perceptible air of
virtue, by means of which we benevolently deceive ourselves and others. God be
praised, we have escaped from ourselves at last!
There are countless people who can do this with impunity, but not everyone can,
and these few break down on the road to their Damascus and succumb to a
neurosis. How can I help these people if I myself am a fugitive, and perhaps
also suffer from the morbus sacer of a neurosis? Only he who has fully accepted
himself has “unprejudiced objectivity.”
Collected Works of C.G. Jung: The First Complete English Edition
p519-520