Hi All
There is a lot of wisdom being mined in this discussion.
My view on facilitation is that holding on dogmatically
to any one approach will limit our access to the field.
Humility allows us to listen and observe without preconceptions
We notice what is and then respond trusting the process will unfold as
it needs to - not as we think it should according to some predetermined
approach or set of precepts. I've noticed over the years that what people learn
from their first teacher or instructor sets them up to believe this is the way
things are supposed to be done and other approaches are suspect.
Appreciating it all depends and the power of "yes and" support the learning in
our community of practice.
Cheers
Harrison
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On Jan 24, 2015, at 1:50 PM, 'Dan Booth Cohen, PhD' danboothcohen@xxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Hello Robert –
In terms of my understanding of the evolution of Constellations, the
direction taken by Franz Ruppert and Vivian Broughton makes the work more
accessible and acceptable to mainstream academics, scientists, therapists and
the general public. This is its primary advantage. On the other hand, it
deletes completely the aspect of Constellations that makes the process a
powerful healing modality.
Using the model of the three dimensions of consciousness
(personal/ancestral/spiritual, drop/wave/ocean, ordinary/soul/spirit-mind),
Constellations of Intention expressly and unequivocally work exclusively with
the first dimension. Both Vivian and Franz have stated quite firmly that the
second and third dimensions are no more than products of the imagination.
Bert Hellinger was usually agnostic when asked whether the representatives
standing in Constellations were literally channeling the consciousness of the
ancestors they were representing. His stock answer was, “We do not know. We
work with the effects.” Broughton and Ruppert have answered with a firm No.
In my work, especially working with Emily Blefeld Volden, I answer with an
equally firm Yes.
To my understanding, a Constellation is a process in which a person with a
pressing personal issue comes into contact with the consciousness of deceased
members of the family system for the purpose of releasing ancestral imprints,
healing broken connections in the biological lineage and establishing a
loving connection to 2nd and 3rd dimension resources. In this context,
symbiotic trauma is an aspect of the first dimension and need not be the
central focus of the experience.
If Constellations are no more than a first dimension experience, it is proper
for the facilitator to exert strict limits on authority. However, if
Constellations are a way of interfacing with 2nd and 3rd dimension
consciousness, then the facilitator is acting responsibly to help navigate
among the ancestors and spiritual resources. It can be appropriate for the
facilitator to act more proactively in communicating with the Field.
Dan
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Sent: Tuesday, January 20, 2015 2:56 AM
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Authority of the facilitator and issues of
trauma.
Hello Friends,
I would like to share this excellent writing by Vivian Broughton who
articulates some of the fundamental challenges I have observed in so many
constellation sessions. Although the article focuses on intention it has
general significance about the way constellations are facilitated.
" Trauma is a situation in which, in the moment of the shift from high stress
to trauma, we simply are looking death in the face. The psychological
splitting that occurs in this moment is the organism’s last-ditch attempt to
manage the devastation it faces by dissociating from the experience. This is
the most extreme situation we can ever face, and survive. All real traumas
have this life and death element. We have no resources, we have no choice, we
have no autonomy. We are absolutely in the power of the forces at play,
whether natural or relational. Resignation and surrender are the only
possibilities; the situation is beyond ‘fight or flight’.
A baby is all feelings; you cannot tell a baby he is safe, he only knows if
he feels safe, and essentially he should feel safe with his mother. But if
his mother is traumatised, and emotionally unavailable, dissociated, absent
to the child, the child cannot feel safe; he must fear for his survival. The
mother’s traumatised state becomes the child’s traumatised state, and the
lack of good, clear loving connection with the mother becomes the child’s own
first moment of trauma… the point at which the child resigns to his fate of
non-connection. This doesn't even begin to deal with the issue of later
traumatisation, for instance in an intentionally abusive family.
Understanding trauma in this way underlies the idea of the constellation of
the intention, because the authority and power of what happens in the work
must always remain with the client. If we understand the powerless experience
of the traumatised, we must understand that every moment of their life
embodies a question of power: who is in charge now? Who is the more powerful?
Am I safe with this person, in this situation? The tension between the
survival need to control, and the terror of being in the control of another
underlies all trauma work.
The formation of the constellation of the intention requires the client to
formulate her intention for this constellation, and for the facilitator to be
acutely attentive to the potential power and authority of any of his
interventions. However easily clients may attempt to make us the authority of
what her intention will be… we cannot take this on. Because the individual’s
autonomy is destroyed in the trauma moment, their continuing existence
oscillates between not trusting others’ potential to have, and take, power
over them, and their need to project their own power out onto others, to make
others the powerful ones. The facilitator must continually avoid falling into
the trap of assuming authority for what happens in the whole constellations
process.
So the intention must belong to the client, be in her own words, and from her
own reflections and deliberations. As much as she may look to the facilitator
to help with forming her intention, we fail her if we do so. We must listen
carefully to everything she says, with our whole being. We may ask questions
if we think we need information or if we have not heard correctly, but
essentially the journey to establishing the intention should be the client’s
own journey.
Once the client’s intention is established, it is the client who must
energise her constellation by choosing a representative for her intention.
She must be free to choose whoever she wants, place this person as she
wishes, and stay with this representative for her intention. This frees the
facilitator from having any influence on who is chosen and how the
constellation is set up.
The ‘intention’ then becomes this extraordinary wildcard that, through the
representative’s experiences, shows the underlying dynamics at play that
relate to the clients stated intention. The representative for the
‘intention’ is free to move, to speak, to follow his or her experience. The
beginning process of the constellation is the development of the relationship
between the client and her ‘intention'; this already represents a split, two
parts of the client: herself and her ‘intention’.
The main task of the facilitator from this point on is to observe the
developing relationship between the client and her ‘intention’, and try and
understand the dynamics that unfold in relation to the stated intention. The
continual question for the facilitator could be expressed as: how does what I
see happening in the constellation relate to the stated intention, and what
are the observable survival/healthy/trauma dynamics?
The advantages of the constellation of the intention then are:
· right from the beginning it represents two parts of the split psyche in
the client (client as separate from her intention, an intention meaning that
she wants something she doesn’t think she has, ie other than her, or separate
from her)
· it is intended to keep as much power and authority for what happens in the
constellation with the client
· it keeps the facilitator’s interventions to a minimum: observation,
understanding and comment
· this gives the process an in-built safety factor: provided the facilitator
doesn’t overstep his place, the constellation will only go as far as the
client can allow (whether consciously or unconsciously)
This last is perhaps the most advantageous item. Safety when working with
trauma is extremely important. The client’s trust of himself, and of the
facilitator, varies from moment to moment, depending on what is happening. If
his trauma is too frighteningly re-triggered he will likely go more into
survival mode, and the constellation will not go further until he is ready.
In my view and experience, situations of severe re-traumatisation of the
client in any constellation is due to the facilitator having pushed the
boundaries and intervened too much.
Anyone can facilitate something that looks like a constellation of the
intention, but the underlying purpose of this process requires a clear grasp
of the reality of trauma, of the relational dynamics between the healthy,
traumatised and survival parts of the traumatised person, and of the power
issues involved."
Best wishes to all,
Robert
