Dear Andrew
I have some experience with religious issues that dominate the field or the
constellation or the question. If you feel comfortable in doing so you might
think of placing this religion in the constellation - I would start with the
family field first and when this gets stuck because of the influence of
religion. Often the tightness increases by this intervention. Then you could
think of placing a repres. for an older religion or the religion that was
there before the jehova's split of and then see how or if it moves from
there. If the powerplay becomes bigger, I sometimes place a representative
for the religion-behind-religions behind these two. You could suggest that
both religions now turn around and face this religion-behind-religions. Very
often I have seen that from there on the family was more free from the
powerplay of religions and could finally see each other - for the first
time. Almost as if from there on there are two separate constellations. One
where the religions start seeing each other and recognising each other and
their own place and one where the movement of the family is opened up for
the next step possible. This whole procedure takes place usually without any
words or just a few words to indicate who is who after a while.
Kind regards
Margreet Mossel,
The Netherlands
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[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] Namens Andrew White
Verzonden: vrijdag 1 april 2011 0:08
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Onderwerp: [ConstellationTalk] Jehovah's Witnesses and disfellowshipping
Dear Constellators,
I have a friend (not a client) who I have found is a "disfellowshipped"
Jehovah's Witness. What this means is, that he was born in a Jehovah's
Witness family but as an adult left that faith. As a result he is
shunned by all Jehovah's Witnesses - including his entire family. They
believe that only Witnesses will be saved on the day of judgement
expected in the very near future, and that contact with non-Witnesses
will endanger their chance of being saved.
As a result his father, his aunt, and one of his two adult daughters
(both mid-20s) refuse to have any contact whatever with him. His other
daughter refuses all but very limited contact. His mother died when he
was a teenager. He has contact only with his ex-wife, who remains in the
Witnesses.
This is of course extremely painful to him, most especially the loss of
his daughters. He is very naturally reluctant to give up hope of contact
with his daughters and to grieve for them, yet at the same time has run
out of ideas for how to re-establish communication. I've suggested to
him to do a constellation, but found it difficult to explain to him the
potential benefits. I wonder if anyone can suggest any books or
articles (whether constellation-related or not) which might be useful
for him to read. I'm also interested if anyone has any experience of
dealing with this painful situation.
With love
Andrew
Bristol UK
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