Hi Allison.
Thank for disclosing your own process so clearly.
It reminds me of a presentation title Sheila Saunders once told me about
that went something like Blind Spot! What blind spot? I cant see any blind
spot!
Really it is virtually impossible to see our own blind spots until we are no
longer blind to them, unless we consider more objective data. I give an
example below.
I am curious about a common difference between male and female facilitators.
As you know most of the early leading facilitators were men. They all agreed
that a foetus under the gestational age of 6 months did not carry nearly the
same weight in a family system as a full term still born baby. Most male
facilitators still reflect this view in their practice. Indeed that is what
seems to show up energetically in the constellations that we men facilitate.
In contrast female facilitators give early miscarriages much more weight in
their constellations. This is what shows up energetically in the field of
their constellations as well. I suspect this reflects the different
biological relationship women have to unborn children even those women who
have not given birth themselves.
These differences raise interesting questions about our blind spots. They
also demonstrate how facilitators affect how the knowing field expresses
itself. I find this quite fascinating.
hasta la vista
Chris Walsh
Melbourne, Australia
webpage: www.cwalsh.com.au
From: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Alison Rose Levy
Sent: Friday, 26 October 2007 11:04 PM
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] Our Own Unresolved Issues
Hi Dipa:
Yours is an important question and one that I am currently considering for
an article I am writing.
When someone brings in an issue that is still in progress for me, I feel the
interconnectedness and allow my own experience of that suffering to be
there. I hold that as present within me and serving as a temporary
supportive ground from which they can work. At the same time, recognizing
that if I happened to be their current life supportive ground, ie. their
mother, at the deepest level I¹d be happy to watch them go beyond me to
their fullest potential in their healing. I release them into their own
system to see where the unique potential of their own fate and their own
system can carry them and whether it¹s one step further or all the way to a
complete resolution, I rejoice and let it be. I¹ve withdrawn and left them
free with their system.
For me personally, what you ask about has come up with the movement to the
mother. For years, I saw it modeled, felt myself moving in that direction,
but also felt that I needed to psychodynamically work with boundaries in
that relationship. I gave myself full permission to do that. At the same
time, I recognized that I attracted a number of clients, who share that
issue, and that in some cases they could do the full movement, and in some
cases, they paused, feeling stymied. I allowed them to be where they are.
But privately, I felt that if I were to complete the movement, I could
better hold that potential for them. So I always held open the sense that I
was moving there at my own pace..
This last year, my mother and I had an amazing breakthrough and actually
enacted the movement together in person while I was visiting her. Our
relationship has completely shifted and it¹s deeply effected my life. The
most amazing thing about it is that the feeling sense is that the love was
always there, but hidden. At my subsequent workshops, I did notice a greater
feeling of inner strength in supporting that for people as of course, those
with this issue continue to be drawn to my workshops. At the same time,
through my own experience, I am able to validate the paradoxical path of
that movement, which sometimes requires a step forward and sometimes a step
back. I do notice that now clients have greater ease in doing the full
movement. And I also notice that when they are only able to make one step,
that while I do nothing differently, inwardly I carry the complete
conviction that the ever-present potential for the full connection is right
there..
This could be applied to other issues as well..
Alison
On 10/23/07 10:36 PM, dipa at fireflyverdigris@xxxxxxxxx
<mailto:fireflyverdigris%40yahoo.com> wrote:
Hello all,
Dipa from sunny Singapore here. thankful for this forum as i am
enjoying and learning alot from here.
I understand that as a facilitator, we are not 'perfect' and will have
issues that we may still be working on ourselves or may be unaware of.
i would like to hear your thoughts and experiences on this:
when a client brings an issue that you as a facilitator have yet
resolved within yourself, is it still possible to work on the issue?
how have you proceeded from there if so?
With gratitude,
Dipa
