Dear Dipa
I am always very clear with pregnant women. I ask the mother to take full
responsibly for her own wellbeing and that of the unborn child and I ask
her only to come to the workshop if she feels well on that day. So I ask her
to be aware of the best situation for the child, and only she can decide
what that is. If it is her first child she usually asks me about this, if
she already had a child the mother usually knows exactly what is best for
her and the baby. (One day a woman told me at the beginning of a workshop
that she had already three times subscribed to my workshops but never came
because she was pregnant and didnt feel well that day. Now was the right
moment for her to look at a next step
)
If I suspect that a role can be very emotionally or hard and the pregnant
woman is chosen for that role, I ask the client to choose another
representative. Anyone can do any role and the mother can experience the
constellation from watching it as well. In a situation where I choose a
representative I am aware of the pregnant woman, just as I am aware of the
fact that for instance two people in the group are husband and wife, this
limits the possibilities also a little bit. And sometimes I choose the
pregnant women specially (but subconscious?) for a mother role as a support
from a former generation. If I make a mistake and the role turns out to
become heavy or hard I just change representatives and mention it slightly.
I dont do this to try to protect the mother or advice her but I just make
her aware of her responsibilities and trust her awareness.
I am not sure if an unborn child can make a distinction between her mothers
own emotions and the ones she goes through if she would be in a role for
someone else. But up till now all the mothers knew what to do to keep their
child comfortable and safe, just as they know that they should better not be
in places where there is smoke, loud music, or other turmoil. I can imagine
that if I dont quite trust the mothers decision yet I would ask them what
their own mother would answer to this question,
This was about my own experiences, I hope it serves you in finding your own
path
Love
Margreet Mossel (just back from Köln!) from the Netherlands
www.opstellingen.com <http://www.opstellingen.com/>
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Van: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] Namens dipa
Verzonden: woensdag 30 mei 2007 17:05
Aan: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Onderwerp: [ConstellationTalk] Pregnancy
hi,
I am in Singapore and am fairly new to constellation work. i enjoy
reading the posts when i can and have learnt alot from you all. i
hope the group will bear with my many questions.
one of them that has come up recently is regarding pregnant women in
constellation work. i am wondering about the safety factor re: the
unborn child. either as a rep or a client. can they participate
freely or are there situations whereby it would be better if they did not.
would appreciate any experiences in this area.
thanks, Dipa
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