John Waite has written an article on the issue of gender in the most recent
issue of the Knowing Field journal which may be of interest to some.
www.theknowingfield.com
Greetings to all
Barbara
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On 18 Feb 2017, at 16:10, Leslie Nipps lnipps@xxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk]
<ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
William - I really like how you write about his. Can you offer an example of
having worked with gender in a way that helped a client feel that congruity
you speak of? Feels like fertile ground…
The Rev. Leslie Nipps
Convivium Constellations - Founder, Practitioner & Trainer
“Trust as a Way of Life…”
www.conviviumconstellations.com
"Hasten to that which supports." - The I Ching
On Feb 18, 2017, at 7:46 AM, wmedw21@xxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk]
<ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear Anne,
I am appreciating your post. Gender is such a significant definer in our
embodied world; and in my experience, the phenomenological field of
constellation work can be of great service towards issues of gender – and not
just “trans” issues. I have worked within “the field” with gender fully and
often.
My experience is that we know our engendered selves internally. It is an
implicit knowing. And then there’s the body. The field and constellation can
offer the client CONGRUITY – a matching between inner and outer experience.
The felt discrepancy, especially given our general cultures and family
systems, can be tremendous. For the client to be able to “see” their
engendered self through the grace of the field and its representatives
externally as the client feels into the engendered self internally – to have
the realities open and revealing and matching (or not matching) – can be of
great assistance. As with all things in our human development, to be seen
from without that which we are knowing within is of great help.
And, of course, what could arise in the field is the incongruity of it all
allowing the client and the field that experience. In the overall, I have the
suggestion as a facilitator to have a special awareness here that body and
gender are not necessarily one and the same. One’s physical-ness and one’s
felt-sense of gender could be represented individually. Nowhere in our human
lives does the insufficiency of a binary explanation for things arise more as
it can with gender. Duality as we usually think of it, is challenged. A
client could be male-embodied and have a clear knowing of being female – and
not necessarily feel that the embodiment needs to be changed.
I have found that the most important thing with gender is that we are able to
know our internal experience – and to know this with others and as part of
our tribe and world. I think that in our current cultures, for the most part,
we are just beginning to really understand and allow gender, and I am happy
for the dialog here.
Thank you.
William E. Thompson
Tucson, Arizona, USA
