Dear Deborah,
Thank you for your acknowledging and kind words to a newcomer on the list.
May I ask which correspondence you see between ´field´ and ´alchemy´?
I have not thought of that before.
Kind regards,
Franz
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Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] Sailing
As in ancient times, the voice of Reason stands between the pillars of
Justice and Truth.
And the field is another name for Alchemy.
Nameste to you as well.
On Sat, Jan 17, 2009 at 4:53 PM, Franz Kalab <franz@xxxxxxxx
<mailto:franz%40kalab.nl> > wrote:
Good evening to you all,little
Which might just be a good morning to some. The Gandalfs among us may
wonder
what I mean when I wish you such with a smile...
Some of you I know and I like ´meeting´ you here again! Many I seem not to
know. So, since I am new to the list and read along silently since a
while, it seems only fair to briefly introduce myself before sayinglive
anything
else.
My name is Franz Kalab. I am a 56 year ´young´ Viennese, Austrian, and
and work in the Netherlands since 1990. I have studied and worked in afall
variety of areas, and received an M. A. in Social-Cultural Sciences from
the
Free University in Amsterdam in 1999. Since 2001 I am divorced from the
mother of our only and dear daughter. Since 2003 I am in a permanent
relationship again.
Also in 2001, reluctantly I took knowledge of systemic work. From 2002 to
2005 I exposed myself to the training at DHISC, the former German Dutch
Institute for Systemic Constellations, not to become a facilitator, but to
work on my own issues. However, since 2005 I facilitate in groups and
individually. Since 2006 I participate in the intensives in Bernried,
Germany. A little more about me and from whom I learned one can find at
www.kalab.nl.
Systemic <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Systemic_Constellations> work is to
me now not again another ´gospel´. I regard it a beautiful and promising,
but also developing and vulnerable discipline and method, which still
deserves to be carefully and thoroughly explored, theoretically and
practically, while already applied.
I liked to add to the current discourse that there may be many ways to
from a horse. That is, to be mistaken, to misunderstand, and to misuse ato
discipline and method, to the end to harm oneself and another. A few ways
to
fall off though may seem more common than others. Such have been described
with various words and metaphors, all limited, more useful in one way and
less in another. Probably none fits sufficiently and the art may ever be
discern and to grasp the content within an imperfect wrapping; whichclient
requires ever to leave things open at least to some degree. So, let me add
some more wrinkled paper onto flat and other screens.
A structural or momentary inclination to dogmatism
<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dogma> , ´eternal´ truth, stability,
security,
rigidity, may tend to hold teachings, theories, structures, orders, higher
than the human being concerned, even so far as to ´sacrifice´ the human
being to keep the teaching conveniently ´pure´ and ´true´. What may not be
cannot be. In theology, dogma has to be rewritten continually to remain
meaningful during time. If similar might be valid also for constellation
work, for example for ´the orders of love´, what could that mean
theoretically and practically?
In systemic terms, for example, what we call ´order of love´ can and will
be
at times handled like a dogma. Within the order, the ´right´ place or act
of
a person could appear ´obvious´. However, it may be that neither the
nor his ´field´ allows it at the moment. The ´field´ just may notto
voluntarily ´yield´. A facilitator could then force the client to stand on
his or her ´proper´ position, to act ´properly´, like forcing her or him
bow to a parent, and to say the ´proper´ words. If he does, just what willlike
he do and where will he come?
A structural or momentary inclination to enthusiasm
<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enthusiasm> , excitement, passion, ardour,
zeal, rapture, ecstasy, to the exceptional, unusual, mysterious, trance
experience, intuition and the like, may hold the subjective impression of
the moment higher than the human being concerned. What could be must and
will be. Again in theology, visionaries, prophets, enthusiasts and the
deserve room, yet their expression requires to be tested by time passing.almost
If
similar might be valid also for constellation work, what could that mean
theoretically and practically?
In systemic terms, for example, there may be almost no end and limit to,
what ´the field´ may ´show´ to a facilitator, and what a new systemic
approach may promise for the future. Who could possibly even only consider
questioning subjective experience and hope? The client may go along hope
for
improvement and change, or may be only used to follow therapists and
counsellors, and so confirm what maybe better should be questioned.
Enthusiasm may even appear contagious for representatives and onlookers.
Humanness, a quality of being humane, compassionateness, and mercifulness
seem to be at stake in the former case and in the latter, common sense,
sensibility, patience, discernment, an ability or at least an attempt to
see
a great distance, to remember and to make connections where there may seem
to be none. How can righteousness (enforcement) and love (amnesty) kiss
another happily? How to balance wisdom <
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wisdom>
between knowledge and compassion?
To me, constellation work is in a sense like sailing
<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sailing> . The passenger may be the client,
the boat the very session we are in together and the harbour to sail for
the
answer to her or his desire or need. The ´given´ landscape´, its cliffs,
islands, continents, bays, seas and their currents may be the ´right´
orders, known from tradition, literature, ´maps´, experience or a mix of
them all and more. The ´field´ of a client may compare to the wind, which
can change even fast and dramatically. The constellation, set up in space
and imagined within, may be like the sail, showing the wind´s nature,
presence or absence, direction and strength. The captain can sail in
every direction, except against the wind. Often enough the goal mayrequire
to advance against the wind and leave ´beating
<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tacking#Beating> ´ as the only possibility
left.
Sailing the way to the goal may be seen as following a ´natural´ path
resulting from the forces present. Similar, in Wei Wu Wei
<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wu_wei> ´effortless doing´ can be conceived.
By the way, I fell through the exam for a sailing-license last summer. So,
I
will have to try it again.
Namaste!
Franz
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