Dear David,
Very good summation. I believe this process is a gift to be used in any way
it can be.. The ancients did all kinds of rituals to insure a good harvest.
Shamans and all indigenous had different ways to access the field of
knowledge. Some used drugs, ceremony, journeys. all to strengthen the
connection to the Great Spirit. I see nothing wrong with using this process
any way we'd like. I strongly keep in mind that I am "small' and not be too
big to straighten out our government or the perceived lying perpetrators
running it etc. It is a sacred and useful process at the same time. What
we're tapping into is energy and we love the negative as much as the
positive but I think we all do Constellations to have a transformative
effect on many things. It is like those old divining rods used to find
water..
Even if it just gives us clarity to move forward confidently we've used it
wisely. Remember as the old Pagans and sacred Witches stated. DO NO HARM =
Rule #1.
Blessed be GARY STUART LA, CA Gary@xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] What Constellations shouldn't be set up?
Hi
This post is prompted by a recent post of Ed's. He said:
'I do think that the constellation can be misused as well. I have
heard of facilitators using constellations to determine the the
distance between differnet plants in their vegetable gardens. I have
heard that some facilatators have used constellations to tell whether a
past life had in fact been past to a more recent past life.'
I am reading 'To the Heart of the Matter' by Bert. i think its a great
book. But, there are a couple of cases which i found surprising he set
up, or set up in the way he did. One is where a man, I guess a
therapist, says he is meeting a client who has had some recent
trauma, and he is very nervous about the meeting. Bert set up this
man's client and her husband, but not the man himslf, even though he
said he was nervous. There was little discussion about what should be
set up or some further discussion of the issue.
In another constellation a woman says she has a mentally handicapped
sister and Bert immediately set up reps for the woman and her sister.
There is no discussion of the issue or how this situation affeects the
client.
I know that there are limitations in a book on transcripts, that not
everything can be or is included from the original workshop. But in
this book it seems very complete in terms of the clients emotions etc.
But these two cases i found rather puzzling in terms of the interview.
And of course Bert just seems to have his intuition and do things that
don't appear to derive from the energy of the reps. He seems to have
his own very special connection with the work. and i respect that.
So back to Ed's comments. I often set up Constellations for myself
when i hold a workshop in a new city, to see my relationship to the
city. i have moved to a new house and there a quite a few problems
with the house so we did a constellation 2 days ago and it led us
right back to the farmers who used to work on this land, it was very
moving and gave us an idea of what the land wanted from us. Was i
wrong to set up this Constellation? Was it too trivial? Would i let a
client set up a similar Constellation, it they said 'I have just moved
into a new house and things are going wrong and it doesn't feel right?'.
So i notice i have judgements over other facilitators, including Bert,
about why they set up a constellation or why they set it up in a
certain way. But i am having this judgement from my experience, not
theirs. Maybe in Ed's example the vegetable patch is the most
important thing in that person's life. I don't know. Maybe the carrots
represent their mother and the cabbages their father.
We often do a perception exercise at our workshops, especially for
groups who haven't done much personal development. Sometimes people
say in this exercise that they have become emotional because their
mobile phone reminds them of their distant father, or something like
that.
i think what guides me to set up a client's constellation is does the
issue seem to matter enough to them and do i feel i can work
systemically to strengthen them, maybe I can help them connect with
their strength without setting up a constellation. Sometimes its not
so clear as this and it still seems to lead somewhere important.
Ed, Thanks for raising the issue.
David Mathes.
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