Lieber Thomas,
ich sehe zu, was ich machen kann, rufe bitte Montagmorgen einmal an,
damit wir was vereinbaren können. Ich denke, dass Du ein guter Lehrer
wärest, denn Du kennst die Nöte von Schülern wie kaum ein zweiter.
Herzliche Grüße
Heinrich
Am 20.06.2008 um 09:27 schrieb Margreet Mossel:
Hi Anita
I just looked at your mail and I would like add something to your
story.
Systemic work looks at the whole system and not to the personal
emotional or
behavioural situations! Before blaming someone that he or she cant
receive,
better look at the history first, that saves years of therapies!
In the story that you describe maybe you could first look at the
situation
around the original heritage, and look for clues in the family about
who was
guilty or should have been guilty. If this woman is just loyal to
someone in
or outside the family who lost everything or their house due to
another
persons gain - in or outside the family, then of course her children
will
never be able to help her!
Working with the different levels of consciences is what makes
systemic work
completely different from eg psychotherapy. If you keep looking
again and
again for the origin of each situation or feeling until you notice a
complete relief or relaxation in the body of the client then you
will find
it much more easy to follow the systemic signs that the soul has
placed
along the road to reconciliation and happiness. The body is always
right and
always knows the way: I trust this observation until something else
shows me
it is different.
Good luck and all the best
Margreet Mossel
The Netherlands
www.opstellingen.com <http://www.opstellingen.com/>
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Van: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] Namens Anita Roy
Verzonden: zondag 15 juni 2008 20:54
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The theme of not being able to receive and take is very interesting
to me. I
am working with a family whose mother finds it extremely difficult to
receive. However, I am not doing FC with them, as I am not yet trained
enough for FC, but certainly the principles of FC do keep reappearing,
especially re family order. This woman was ready to lose her house
to the
banks, which was paid for initially by an inheritance and then
borrowed
against, rather than have four out of her eight grown up children,
living at
home, with good jobs, contribute to room and board at home, though
they were
willing. They were squandering their paychecks until recently.
What I have found is that not being able to receive is a need to
maintain
power and control. When we refuse to take what is offered, we maintain
control and have a monopoly on the giving. Aside from the obvious
martyrdom,
there are the usual questions of rage, self worth and inability to
feel
loved.
Anita
2008/6/14 Angelika Chisholm <wings4angelika@
<mailto:wings4angelika%40clear.net.nz> clear.net.nz>:
At a recent conversation with a well informed Maori women, we talkedto say
about
the theme of giving and receiving , *where she had the following
..........the
she put the extensive loss down to the absence/inability to accept
compensation, with rage being the blockage.*
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