The theme of not being able to receive and take is very interesting to me. I
am working with a family whose mother finds it extremely difficult to
receive. However, I am not doing FC with them, as I am not yet trained
enough for FC, but certainly the principles of FC do keep reappearing,
especially re family order. This woman was ready to lose her house to the
banks, which was paid for initially by an inheritance and then borrowed
against, rather than have four out of her eight grown up children, living at
home, with good jobs, contribute to room and board at home, though they were
willing. They were squandering their paychecks until recently.
What I have found is that not being able to receive is a need to maintain
power and control. When we refuse to take what is offered, we maintain
control and have a monopoly on the giving. Aside from the obvious martyrdom,
there are the usual questions of rage, self worth and inability to feel
loved.
Anita
2008/6/14 Angelika Chisholm <wings4angelika@xxxxxxxxxxxx>:
At a recent conversation with a well informed Maori women, we talked
about
the theme of giving and receiving , *where she had the following to say
..........
she put the extensive loss down to the absence/inability to accept the
compensation, with rage being the blockage.*
