I think we are all ordinary people with strengths and weaknesses. Some of us
have the experience of doing or seeing others do extraordinary things. I feel
fortunate that events in my life have already confirmed that I am not as
enlightened that I, for one, might wish to believe. Leaves much to look forward
to. all the best, sheila
Constellation Intensive with Stephan Hausner July 28-Aug. 2 in Farmington,
CTSheila Saunders, RN, LMFT
www.systemicfamilysolutions.com
PO Box 1011 Weaverville, North Carolina 28787
828-273-5015
Letting your life run in the ordinary way is one option.
To: ConstellationTalk@yahoogroups.comFrom: LevyAR@earthlink.netDate: Thu, 5 Jun
2008 04:40:50 -0400Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk]
home-stretch-boost/projections
Yes, Max:> > What you write totally captures it and there is also a wide
open and empty> mental space that I experience at that time as well. And you
are right it is> as if the group is sailing on a wind building throughout the
workshop.> > Jane and Daniel, I also wanted to comment on the discussion on
projections. We> all have them just not at the same time and place or on
the same people. A> friend of mine once was part of a spiritual group in
which most people> experienced a profound feeling of devotion to the
charismatic teacher whom> my friend perceived as an ordinary woman with
strengths and weaknesses. My> friend blamed herself for her lack of devotion
and feeling. I questioned why> she would even want to follow a teacher
towards whom she felt no resonance.> Events later confirmed that the teacher
was not as enlightened as many> believed, and my friend¹s dispassion was a
form of clarity that served those> coming to terms with those revelations.> >
Both passion and the richness of the tale as you so eloquently describe,>
Daniel, and dispassion withdrawing (or perhaps as Hunter advises
bracketing,> or being aware of and owning) one¹s projections-- have a time
and a place. We> most certainly access projection in the resonance between
clients and> representatives for their family members. So the question is:
how to> understand projections honestly and manage our projections when they>
interfere?> > Alison> > > > Thank you Alison,> > for the nytimes link,> as
one of those of us who is approaching the twilight zone> the article reads
uplifting for me; there is wisdom in the air.> > Your frank description of
experiencing> an 'end of workshop fatigue'> makes me suggest you are not
alone it that.> > Perhaps to some extend what you describe> is a reflection
of the group energy.> > Particularly towards the end of a workshop lasting
more than one day> one seems to be able to work quite differently,> more
efficient I dare say.> > The group has grown together> some previous
representations and all the observations> have given already a lot to those
who still intent to work themselves.> No need to 'start from scratch' with
them.> > What kicks in late is something> I'd like to call the
home-stretch-boost.> > It becomes almost imperative then,> after the barest
minimum of talk,> to bring the seeker in straight away herself> with just one
representative for 'the issue'.> Most amazingly fast and deep
transformations> seem to occur during these last hours of the workshop> with
virtually no intervention at all.> > Is that part of your experience as
well?> > Max> > Melbourne, Australia> Harmony in Human Systems> >> > Dear
Hunter:>> >>> > Thank you for returning to my question and to Chris, and Max
for your>> > responses as well.>> >>> > Bracketing one¹s awareness, as you
suggest Hunter, sounds like a very> helpful>> > approach to acknowledge what
we bring in while allowing that to recede from>> > front and center in the
awareness. Also your comments on forgetting,>> > meditation, really spoke to
me and there is something I¹d like to share.>> >>> > I¹ve long noticed that
as the workshop day nears its end, that I am> sometimes>> > tired with my
mind a near blank. As people share their issue, it sort of>> > washes in and
from that emerges one single thing, an impression, a> sentence.>> > There is
often a sense of ³we don¹t need a whole constellation here,² and I>> > tend
to do simpler more direct things with the client, often suggesting> that>> >
they or the reps say statements that come up on the moment and don¹t sound>>
like anything I¹ve heard before. Or I¹ll offer a guided imagery>contemplation>> > with whatever shows up in the moment. I¹ll often feel that
I am near to> being>> > asleep while standing on my feet and doing a
constellation. At first,> this was>> > a little scary because I identified
this as almost like a ³senior> moment,² or>> > worse. But I¹ve seen over
time, that amazing stuff happens then and some>> > workshop regulars try to
work at the end because of this. Two workshops> ago, a>> > bee appeared in
the room (in fact bees have shown up at a few workshops> now)>> > and became
part of the constellation. I¹ve always wondered whether or> not I¹m>> >
losing it and whether losing it is a good thing.>> >>> > Overall, I have a
very focused sort of mind, so perhaps my focus in the>> > earlier part of the
workshop day has worked the mind muscle until it> releases>> > and just
opens. I also saw a piece/study somewhere that ³senior moments²> are>> >
artifacts not of senility but of a ³broad attention span¹ that does not>> >
filter. The article here discusses that:>> > >>
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/05/20/health/research/20brai.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=a>>
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