Dee and I and others worked closely for more than a year on the 2010 US
Conference, which eventually was postponed due to her illness. It's now the
2011 US Systemic Constellations Conference in San Francisco, October 28-30.
We developed a close bond. Her illness brought out a shining humanity that
illuminated me. Someone once observed, "Death is the opposite of the
weather. Nobody talks about it, but everyone does something about it." In
sharing so generously about her own end-of-life process, she taught us much
about life. She will be missed, honored, and remembered by all of us who
knew her.
Dan
www.USConstellations.com
On Sun, Aug 21, 2011 at 6:16 PM, gary stuart <Gary@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
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Yes, thanks Chris,
I have NEVER EVER seen anyone go through their battle with terminal Cancer
with such grace, acceptance and elegance. I too grieve her loss and we too
as Facilitators are only human, small in the greater forces or Life and
Death that we all share equally. I bow to her Greatness of how she handled
her transition.....
Thank you dearest Dee the pleasure was mine. Namaste Gary Stuart
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Subject: RE: [ConstellationTalk] Passing away of Dee Yoh: Digest Number
1841
From: "Chris Walsh" <chrisjwalsh@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Date: Sun, August 21, 2011 1:53 pm
To: <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Hi Ingala and others
I too remember being enlivened by Dees vibrant energy when I met her at
the last USA conference. A beautiful person! A great loss!
I am sure her presence will be very strongly felt at the upcoming USA
conference in October.
Much love
Chris Walsh
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Passing away of Dee Yoh: Digest Number 1841
Dear Ginny, Dear Pat OHanlon,
I want to send my deep sympathy because of the passing away of Dee Yoh. I
met her at the last USConference, and in the middle of all the turmoil, she
remained calm and with a sense of humour. She will be missed during the next
USConference.
With heartfelt regards,
Ingala Robl
Director,
Centro de Constelaciones SOWELU
México
www.constelaciones.com.mx
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Posted by: "Ginny Vinson" ginnyvinson1@xxxxxxxxxxx <mailto:
ginnyvinson
Wed Aug 17, 2011 12:02 pm (PDT)cancer on August 9th at 7:10 am.
I wanted to let the Constellation Talk family know that Dee Yoh died of
trainers and conferences to the US. She will be deeply missed.
Dee was a skilled facilitator and played an active role in bringing
9th at 7:10am peacefully in her sleep. She had a long battle with cancer and
Below is a short note from her husband Pat.
Ginny Vinson
Hi Friends,
I am writing to inform you all that my loving wife Dee Yoh passed on the
it was fast moving and becoming quite painful. I just got into her email and
am informing her entire list. She was a loving mother, wonderful wife and a
great teacher and friend to many people. She will be missed. Thank you too
for all the prayers especially the ones for her to pass quickly and
gracefully towards the end. I am sure she heard you all.
All the best,lizjelinek%40comcast.net> <mailto:lizjelinek%40comcast.net> lizjelinek
Pat OHanlon
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Wed Aug 17, 2011 3:15 pm (PDT)later todayor tomorrow early. My website designers are helping.
Rumor has it that the little video that grew will be able to be posted
if any of you had written anything on Constellations and epigenetics? If so,
In the meantime Im doing some writing for another project and wondered
Id love to read itor if any of you have any comments or feelings about the
topic, please share.
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Thanks, Liz
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Subject: RE: [ConstellationTalk] attachmentsthen return the file/movie to my computer and upload it from there. So now I
All you techies out there--HELP! Now I'm told I must burn a CD first,
cannot burn the CD. Yikes.
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HEAR ABOUT BOWING TO SHAME. I promise--I will upload the DVD, or whatever in
Thanks, Liz
SO HERE'S THE SCRIPT! HOPE THAT AT LEAST HELPS ALL OF YOU WHO WANT TO
the very immediate future. Fondly, Liz
Walsh, an internationally-known psychiatrist and constellation trainer from
Narrator:
The following is a recreation of a constellation exercise by Dr. Chris
Australia, at the North American Constellations Summer Intensive, sponsored
by Dr. Ed Lynch, Director of the New England Institute of Systemic
Constellations. The dolls are from Liz Jelineks international doll
collection and represent the participants at the workshop. Liz is playing
herself and the part of the facilitator Dr. Chris Walsh is being represented
by Jane Maclaren.
The mind goes blank when shamedso accessing shame is a tool to reconnect
Leader:
Great Spirit, Creator and Guardian of the holding field,
We ask that you be here with us today
As we travel the road of providence
To bring healing to all those who are present,
And to the ancestors who have gone before us.
Facilitator:
With humiliation we get stuck. With humbleness we get upfrom the ground.
with the traumatic experiences in our lives.
when we let go of judgments, projections and blame, we can let go of the
And so when we bow to the fate that a person in our life has had, and
separating mind and reconnect through true love and compassion.
with the traumatic experiences of our lives. And when we bow to the fate
With shame, the mind goes blankso accessing shame is a tool to reconnect
that a person in our lives has experienced, and we let go of judgment,
projections and blame, we can let go of the separating mind and reconnect
through true love and compassion.
with another. This is the connection between humility and shame. Shame
Bowing is a movement back into self that precedes a genuine encounter
results from an interruption or a rejection, or disapproval from another.
shamelessness is a danger to both ourselves and others. Some people develop
But shame has an evolutionary survival value as well, because
dysfunctional ways of dealing with shamesome by behaving aggressively, or
by attacking, or blaming another. Others avoid the feelings altogether by
retreating into shamelessnessoften involving the use of alcohol or drugs.
fighting, or criticizing ourselves or others, we recognize shame as a
However, if we develop a healthy relationship with shame, then instead of
natural mechanism that slows us down. Bowing in a constellation is an
important key to understandingso we bow to fate, or to the fate of another.
explored mindfully, the bow can be felt completely, along with any
This generally has a significant effect on the recipient. If the bow is
resistances. Then the bow can go as deep as necessaryand can be felt
internally or expressed externally. It is in the bow that we really meet
ourselves!
and a new situation is createdusually with a more satisfactory contact
As we come out of the bow, both the bower and the recipient are changed,
between the people involved. Or, at least the bower will have a better
understanding of the reality of the situation, or the person to whom she/he
has bowed.
gives us good timing and flexibility in our responses, and a natural,
It is through this that a healthy relationship with shame develops that
dignified humilitya humility that allows us to let go of ego attachments,
while still maintaining a place for healthy prideand bowing in a
constellation is an important key to understanding this.
demonstrate bowing?
Facilitator:
Does anyone have someone theyd be willing to bow to as a demonstration?
Client:
Oh my god, Yuk! (Client makes an ugly face.)
Facilitator:
That looks like and sounds like a constellation to me. Are you willing to
anyone have a handicap? Or mental illness?
Client:
To whom?
Facilitator:
Who is the face about?
Client:
My mother, I guess.
Facilitator:
Are you willing to bow to your mother?
Client:
Thats not an easy request.
Facilitator:
Are you?
Client:
I guess so.
Facilitator:
Are there any shaming experiences you can think of in your family? Did
wasnt allowed to go to school with her brothers and sister.
Client:
My mother had polio when she was a child and her mother hid hershe
your grandmother.
Facilitator:
Will you choose two representativesone for your mother and the other for
facilitator.)
Client:
(Client chooses the two representatives, then sits back down next to the
mother is looking at her back.
Facilitator:
I see that your grandmother is facing away from your mother and your
since before I was born.
Client:
Yes, they didnt have a great relationship. My grandmother lived with us
turns.)
Facilitator:
Can you walk over and face your mother?
Client:
Thats scary.
Facilitator:
Mother, can you turn and face your daughter? (Representative for mother
a debilitating childhood disease. Then her mother kept her from going to
Can you bow to your mothers fate? She had a hard life. She suffered from
school. She must have felt shame and humiliation.
further until she finally is almost bent over towards her mother.)
Client:
(Stifling tears, begins to lower head to mother.)
Facilitator:
Is that as far down as you can go?
Client:
This is really hard. (Client is crying softly now.) (She lowers head
anywhere in your body that you are feeling anything.
Facilitator:
Just stay as long as you can and feel the feelings you are having. Notice
cheeks.)
Client:
(Client is crying hard now and is still bent over.)
Facilitator:
When you are ready you can begin to come back up out of the bow.
Client:
(Client slowly returns to a standing position. Tears are flowing down her
still falling.) I see her differently now.
Facilitator:
How are you?
Client:
(Long pause, as client looks at the representative of her mother, tears
Daily Digest.
THE END
Enjoy! Film/video to follow--SOON! LIZ
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