Dan,
Thank you for clarifying to Wayne Besen that he is assuming wrong
assumptions from Richard Cohen about Constellation work.
To all:
The striving for a non judgemental approach to phenomena is for me an
essential point in facilitating constellations. Pathology in this way
seems to me opposed to phenomenology.
On the subject of homosexuality:
As a young adult I started attracting other men that seemed to turned
on to me. I enjoyed the intimacy and sexual exploration,as I was too
afraid to approach women, eventhough I always was more attacted to
them. The gay men encouraged me to "come out " and acknowledge that I
was "gay". I saw I was at a crossroads and could rewire my body/mind
in that way, but fate turned out different for me (until now). I
started accepting and embracing masculinity. For me the polarity with
a woman has way deeper, and scarier potential on many levels, not
just physically but also emotionally and mentally and spiritually. I
choose not to rewire because it looked like I would be selling my
soul short. The process of accepting and standing in masculinity has
taken on new depths with doing my own constellations.
Now that is with my condition that I came into the world with.
I do acknowledge that for others there may be different paths to walk
and I honor their fates and support them to live the love they know
in their hearts.
Carl van Rossum
Edmonton, Canada
--- In ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, "Dan Booth Cohen"
<danbcohen@...> wrote:
Family
In doing my research, I came across an exchange about Hellinger,
Constellations, and homosexuality in two books.claims that
The first is "Coming out Straight" by Richard Cohen. The author
being gay results from the pathological condition Same-Sex AdfectiveHidden
Disorder. He uses Hellinger's statements (e.g. pp. 70-74 "Love's
Symmetry") to buttress his argument.Unmasking
The second is a book written in rebuttal, "Anything But Straight:
the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth," by Wayne Besen. Hewrites:
"Drawing from the work of Bert Hellinger, Cohen proposes that a gayman can
experience recovery by examining his family structure."came
I wrote Wayne Besen's via his website:
"Dear Wayne - I was doing an Amazon search for "Bert Hellinger" and
across your mention of him in Anything But Straight.worldwide
I feel compelled to write you to say that Bert Hellinger and the
community of Family Constellation facilitators would stronglyrepudiate
Richard Cohen's claim that homosexuality is a pathology that can becured by
Family Constellations.Constellation work
I will spare you the details here, but Richard Cohen's claims are an
unfortunate distortion. I regret that your book suggests
supports his claims. The opposite is true."facilitators?
Am I correctly representing the majority of Constellation
Dan
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