Dear Kenn,
As Dan says I feel we are two boats on the same sea. My experience
seems quite different to you. Or maybe I am at my limit of
understanding others in e-mail communication. Sometimes i feel my
understanding of certain words could be different to others.
I think my curiosity enlarges the field not makes it smaller. For
example, I might ask myself, 'I wonder why that representative is
holding her stomach, maybe I should ask what's happening for her?' or
something like that.
My own therapist is mostly psycho-analytical. He says to me 'David my
process is: nothing happens in the session until you start talking.'
I guess he is not using a phemonenological approach. He is very
unlikely to say to me 'David, I notice you are wearing a yellow shirt
today, you have never worn yellow before, I wonder what its like for
you to wear yellow?''.
I can't remember setting up a constellation to satisfy a curiosity,
though I think many participants say they have come to my workshops
because they are curious. That may be a way of saying 'I am not ready
to look at my issue yet, but later maybe'. However I think for many
people part of them is curious when they attend workshops, especially
for the first time. I know when I attend a training I am often very
curious about the trainers style etc, though when someone sets up
their constellation I am very supportive of them.
cheers....David Mathes
Re: What is a Constellation?
Posted by: "Kenn Day" enki@xxxxxxx kenndeigh
Mon Feb 11, 2008 6:06 am (PST)
David,
I respectfully disagree. If anything, the curiosity we feel about the
process - while completely natural - is a danger to the field. Our
mandate to do the work does not include curiosity. In fact, of the
times I have felt the field collapse freeze or otherwise be
unworkable, it is most often because I or someone else is approaching
with an attitude of curiosity rather then in service to the true
needs of the client to effect a change in how things are in their
system.
I do not exclude theory. I just try to not be too caught by it's
seductive qualities. It is very easy to for it too rise into a place
where it obscures what arises from the practice. Especially if what
arises doesn't agree with our theory. Or perhaps that's only a
weakness of mine. ;-)
namaste.
Kenn
