I have great respect for this group and really appreciate the opportunity
to share ideas and perspectives. When we give representatives guidance we tell
them some simple things: that's there's nothing for them to do or think about,
but be open, relax and breathe; that they may feel nothing, which is fine; and
we lead them in some silent statements to themselves that they are not [their
name], that they are [the person they are representing], and that they are in
service to the healing of the client and the client's family. As facilitators
we hold that as the highest intention for the constellation- that everyone is
serving the client and the healing of that particular family system.
If a representative begins to feel too much of their own unresolved
energies, they will be less available to be open to the sensations, impressions
and most importantly the energies of the family member. It takes a real
practice of multi-dimensional awareness to hold the energies of who you're
representing, not lose your self in the representation, and remember that
you're serving the needs of the client and the process of the constellation.
I've had representatives be so overwhelmed by their own family memories that
they could not report on the state of the person they were representing, but
spoke about their own mother, for example. At this point I have no hesitation
to respectfully replace them with another participant.
Chuck Cogliandro
Family Constellations Facilitator
Brennan Healing Science Practitioner
Kumandi Drums & Healing
404-577-6842 voice mail
www.kumandi.com