Here is a quote by Vivian from your post: We are absolutely in the power of
the forces at play, whether natural or relational. Resignation and surrender
are the only possibilities; the situation is beyond ‘fight or flight’.
This may be true in childhood but I absolutely disagree that we do not have
these choices as adults faced with death. I must add that in cases of death
occurring there is no post trauma. One is dead. If death seems imminent, we may
not choose fight or flight and may instead go into a frozen state, the third
'f' choice. But this in adulthood is a choice. If we have done sufficient work
with ourselves and particularly constellation work, then when we see death, we
do have choices. We can choose fight or flight. Perhaps those who see well
beyond the here and now to the bigger systemic flow are more fitted with tools
to choose.
Someone tried to murder me in November and most assuredly, I chose 'fight.' I
chose to do all within my power and faculties and instinct to survive well from
this attack. I was about 30 seconds from unconsciousness while being smothered.
Then I thought he would bludgeon me to death. This is not theory for me. I had
not planned to share that here, but as it is, if I refute the ideas of trauma
responses, I really must say how I know this to be true. When I was certain he
would kill me, I still chose to fight.
Theories are just that. Theories we gain from observing some situations. I at
this time, intent to write more about how constellation work prepares us to
meet life challenges. Perhaps in an article or a book. For now, I have said
enough.
PLEASE do not copy and share this. I am not allowed to speak to the media.
The case is and will be for a long time, before the courts. Thank you for this
courtesy.
Love to all. Anni
