Dear Anne and all others
If I think of how we would look for a solution in a situation like this in a
constellation, it would be like: looking at the grandfather, look with him
to his parents and see them in their reconciliation. maybe a little impulse
is still needed, but most of the time this evolves in a natural way. Then
withdraw from that part, maybe first saying: dear grandfather, I honour your
fate. Then look over (beyond) all of them and see the spirit that is guiding
all the processes, also the ones that we call trauma, and say yes to it all.
Emotions are not carried by parents into their offspring, as you write, it
is the opposite! As young children we try to save our parents by trying to
take over their fate and try to live their misery or do their homework. But
we only look at ourselves in that way. If we would be able to look at our
parents we would immediately see that it does not help them and it makes
their 'trauma' or suffering even bigger. This is of course an instinct
reaction to survive as a young child, but later in life we have to update
these decisions to our adult possibilities. Looking at it from a systemic
perspective is one of the possibilities we have.
So maybe I would say: the mirror neurons have their function when we are
very small, (we learn everything in life by looking at others) but later in
life we have to update and become adults and free. Bert Hellinger writes
about these processes in all of his eighty books.
All the best
Margreet Mossel, the netherlands
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[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] Namens Anne Beversdorf
Verzonden: vrijdag 6 augustus 2010 1:42
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Onderwerp: Re: [ConstellationTalk] Digest Number 1615
I've mostly "lurked" here, but just had an experience and thought I'd like
to share. (I do group constellations rarely, and individual constellations
somewhat more regularly, when they seem called for in my normal astrological
practice. I've been doing this since 1998.)
So, I've got a story to tell followed by a question...
I just did a constellation for myself, preceded a few years ago by a vision
in which I "became" my grandfather, a young boy of about 5, weeping
inconsolably because his parents were at the graveyard. I'd long known his
general history: his father died, his uncle took the kids from the mother
(German-Texan law), the mother raised a $500/child bond to regain custody
and promptly died herself. I only recently learned he was 5 when his father
died, so only recently realized he effectively lost both parents when he was
the age I temporarily "embodied". (His mother died when he was 12, but I
don't know the year when she regained custody.)
I remember my own childhood until age 5 as happy, with me ridiculously
self-confident and optimistic, and remember that after that I became more
"serious"--melancholy even, but can't identify anything difficult that
happened in my life at that time. As an adult I've suffered periods of deep
depression for no apparent reason. So my personal constellation reconnected
me with my grandfather and seems not only to have rescued me from a bout of
depression, but has triggered some big inner shifts I am only beginning to
see.
So here's the question. We see so often the effect of family history in
constellations... Do you think it's at all possible that "mirror neurons"
work across generations? According to my neurologist brother, these have a
specific location in the brain. If emotions are carried by parents into the
offspring, is it possible that mirror neurons are involved in
multigenerational trauma (or success, for that matter)?
Anne Beversdorf
Counseling Astrologer
Western and Vedic
www.stariel.com
anne@xxxxxxxxxxx <mailto:anne%40stariel.com>
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