Thank you all for the thoughtful comments and also for great article link.
Earnshaw's gentle "not knowing" but waiting to listen (in addition to the
intergenerational thesis) is so very important, isn't it.
Yes, I've been reading Ruppert's book. He speaks of mirror neurons in the
process between mother and child. Not intergenerationally. And while
Hellenger speaks of children taking on parents' issues for love (and
self-protection), Ruppert suggests that the issues are somehow imbedded in the
parent and the child absorbs them. (I've often thought Hellenger's principle
reflects a biological imperative: His "Better that I die than You, dear
mother," is about the preservation of the species: The parent can survive and
have more children, but if the parents die, so will an infant, thereby
threatening the species. But this biological imperative, beyond infancy,
becomes psychologically dysfunctional).
But mirror neurons, cross-generationally, wouldn't exclude other people
involved in the biological family's trauma. They act by apparently
"reflecting" the feelings of others onto the parts of the brain that processes
those feelings as our own. They really do act as mirrors, casting the other's
experience onto the parts of our brains that process the same experience. So
this would be entirely consistent with the extended family system of
constellations.
For me, the healing words with my grandfather were: "Grandpa, thank you for
Life. I accept this life at the full cost you paid for it. I know your love
for me would not want me to carry this burden, so to honor your love I give it
back to you to deal with as you think best."
In the second day out, a great weight that has Always been around my heart is
still 'missing', allowing me to understand for the first time in memory, the
term "light-hearted". And my previous sense of hopelessness is replaced with
optimism. Me? Optimism? Nice!
Anne Beversdorf
Counselling Astrologer
Western and Vedic
www.stariel.com
anne@xxxxxxxxxxx
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