Dear Monika,
What is indicated in the constellations you talk about is that the mothers are for different reasons entangled in their family of origin or in the fate of their family, which makes them unable to be present for their husbands and children. Although they marry in the flesh, in the soul they are not able to be (fully) there.
The work to be done is to bring to light what this entanglement in each different family is about. Bring into the constellation the people concerned, especially the one(s) who has been excluded.
Very often we notice that only after this work is done, the woman is able to turn to her husband and after that she is able to turn to her children. Also we see very often in a family that a woman who is heavily entangled marries a man who is heavily entangled aswell and the children have to find their own way.
Another possibility which is a sort of shortcut, which sometimes works, is to put (one of) the parents or grandparents behind the woman, or someone from the family who gives inner strenght. Sometimes this helps the woman to be more present for the people in her own family.
The comments of Chris are also interesting in this perspective. Very often you see that people with a heavy fate in the family have a strong survivorpersonality, which can be seen as an iron ring around the soulenergy.
Questions which come up are: If this is the case with a woman, how much felt need is there for a man? Or how "ripe" was your group of women to really contact their soulenergy ? This means to really meet what is going on on a deeper level? Hopefully this is of some help for you.
Greetings,
Peter en Otteline van Zuilekom-Lamet
