Dear Otteline,
thank you for your comment.
It answered my questions and gave me hints where to improve my work.
Interestingly, I had brought in the grandmothers into the constellations and in
all the cases, there was a strong bond between them and their granddaughters.
It was as if they had taken up the motherhood for their own daughters.
Chris' comment about the male energy keeps working within me and I am greatful
for your in put, Chris.
Otteline, you had asked about the spiritual level of the women. Well, it was a
meditation retreat seminar.
I am very greatful for this opportunity to exchange my experiences with you and
appreciate your comments.
Best wishes,
Monika
----- Original Message -----
From: Otteline van Zuilekom-Lamet
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Thursday, April 03, 2003 8:42 AM
Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] Disconnected mothers
Dear Monika,
What is indicated in the constellations you talk about is that the mothers
are for different reasons entangled in their family of origin or in the fate of
their family, which makes them unable to be present for their husbands and
children. Although they marry in the flesh, in the soul they are not able to be
(fully) there.
The work to be done is to bring to light what this entanglement in each
different family is about. Bring into the constellation the people concerned,
especially the one(s) who has been excluded.
Very often we notice that only after this work is done, the woman is able to
turn to her husband and after that she is able to turn to her children. Also we
see very often in a family that a woman who is heavily entangled marries a man
who is heavily entangled aswell and the children have to find their own way.
Another possibility which is a sort of shortcut, which sometimes works, is to
put (one of) the parents or grandparents behind the woman, or someone from the
family who gives inner strenght. Sometimes this helps the woman to be more
present for the people in her own family.
The comments of Chris are also interesting in this perspective. Very often
you see that people with a heavy fate in the family have a strong
survivorpersonality, which can be seen as an iron ring around the soulenergy.
Questions which come up are: If this is the case with a woman, how much felt
need is there for a man? Or how "ripe" was your group of women to really
contact their soulenergy ? This means to really meet what is going on on a
deeper level? Hopefully this is of some help for you.
Greetings,
Peter en Otteline van Zuilekom-Lamet
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