Hi Andrew
Haven't used constellation with small children, have used sand tray/play
work, much along the lines you share re your game concept. The child's
inner world is expressed through the play process, needs little words
really, things like 'Tell me about the fish' or 'what's that there' etc.
enough. It's about the child expressing what they cannot, so words can
block. Interestingly my experience has often been once it's externalised,
witnessed and held the 'issue' often evaporates, they process 'felt
thought' rapidly it seems.
I also echo encouragement for your felt sense & creatively in child
language of what may work, you know them AND you care, AND are willing to
try creatively. Lucky friend & little boy.
Hope some of this helpful, Good luck with it
Edna
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On 10 Mar 2015, at 10:31 pm, Andrew White andrew@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Hi everyone,
I have a friend with a 4-year old son who often gets angry and
frustrated. Often, it simply sounds like he's being a four year-old. But
other times there is a buried hurt inside the anger which he is just too
young to recognise, let alone verbalise.
So I am curious, if anyone has experience of using the methods of
individual constellations to help children communicate things they don't
know how to communicate.
Please note, I'm NOT enquiring about doing a therapeutic constellation
either with the little boy or for him. I don't think anyone involved
needs therapy.
Rather, I'm interested if there is a way of using markers on the floor -
cushions or coloured felts etc - to convert communication about feelings
from the realm of talk, which he is years away from mastering, into the
realm of movement.
For example, I could imagine starting with a game with felt markers for
eg the characters in "The Cat in the Hat" [
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Cat_in_the_Hat ] and say eg "OK, so
the boy is HERE and the girl is HERE and the cat is THERE, where would
the fish be?" [the fish is angry and afraid]. And so introduce the
notion of position relating to emotions.
Has anyone any experience of this?
Best regards to all
Andrew
