I can definitely relate to this concern and yet also feel that this work
will lead to a different way of processing our suffering. This can mean
that there will be something I call restorative exhaustion, because the
unconscious is being stirred up and brought to light.
Our culture here in Canada/USA tends to avoid that which is unpleasant, and
this work is about skydiving into it in order to expand our hearts. So I'm
not afraid of when a person is feeling tired or upset, or even contemplating
the representative they've been in - because this is aiding them in their
journey of awareness, compassion and humility.
This work is a true exercise of respectful boundaries, so we are not
invading into the privacy of individual souls, but rather listening to when
it is okay to connect to the part of the relationships that is in a state of
disharmony. I'm very watchful of this balance so we are getting to a place
where love and compassion can enter.
From: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Sent: Tuesday, March 12, 2013 1:26 PM
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Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] I need Help...
Jack, what concerns me when I read your post is not so much that people
may feel tired, as that they might be taking on some of the energy or
story of the person and system they represented. I like to use simple
mental and physical cleansing rituals to support a full return from the
rep experience. If aftercare were to be needed, I would ask myself if I
had adequately closed the constellation or the day's circle, or perhaps
whether I had adequately cared for a potentially vulnerable participant.
I often remind/advise a person who has represented to fully accept the
client's statement of release, to also tell her own self that she is out
and that she is allowed to forget the role and its details. Especially if
the rep experience was emotionally powerful or could be perceived as
dramatic (some part of all of us loves to own a nice little drama...). In
closing a circle I may specifically state that the day's experiences are
now returned to the ancestors or others who really lived them.
(Sometimes people may wish to remember the feelings and data of
representing, in order to learn about constellation work or reflect on
their own life. That's fine, so long as he has enough personal stability
and awareness to do so without taking on what is not really his; there
have been instances when I was concerned in that regard and specifically
encouraged full forgetting -- "like water off a duck".)
After I have participated deeply in a constellation (as a rep or
occasionally just from the outer circle), I like to rinse my hands and
face with water, and/or clear my aura with a rosewater mist (or sage
smoke). I sometimes suggest this to others. Of course others may prefer
different processes.
We are stepping deeply into stuff that is not our own, and we need to be
vigilant about defining the beginning and ending of each part of the
journey.
Blessings
Mishra Suloway
Santa Fe, New Mexico USA
On Wed, March 13, 2013 1:13 am, jack blackwell wrote:
I have had a lot of comments lately in my workshops about people being
tired for days after multiple representations. I would love it if some of
this community would share your tips regarding participants leaving my
workshop in the most resourced way possible.
Rituals?
Cleansing?
After care?
Any thoughts and ideas that have worked for your participants would be
helpful.
Love and Gratitude in advance,
Jack Blackwell