Careful! There are no fatherless sons.
all the best, sheila
Sheila Saunders RN, LMFT
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PO Box 1011 Weaverville, NC 18787
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"When we have passed a certain age, the soul of the child we were and the souls
of the dead from whom we have sprung come to lavish on us their riches and
their spells." -Marcel Proust (In Search of Lost Time)
On Sep 5, 2014, at 12:07 AM, "'Eimear O'Neill' eimear@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk]" <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Hello Lawrence
Even if the father has been absent, being able to see and feel the support
from male ancestors represented, is powerful. It has been helpful to have men
in the group, as a group, encourage fatherless sons to step into being an
adult male. In most indigenous communities, this would have been ritualised.
Ceremonies around this in our circles have been very moving. It has also
been good to have such men meet a rep for their father to whom they can say
what they need to say now, today. (This may be gratitude for life, for their
strong body or other pertinent characteristics. It may be to tell them that
they would be proud of their son or to express their grief openly for all
that they both missed out on without the relationship.. many things that can
repair the stream of life.)
Hope your work goes well.
Warmly
Eimear
On Wed, Sep 3, 2014 at 6:32 PM, David Slade davidslade8@xxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
There is a great book called You Are One of Us that talks about these
issues, I highly rec.
On Thu, May 22, 2014 at 11:50 AM, Lawrence Ngorora lavincisa@xxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Dear Constellators
I recently returned from a "men's training" where 30 young men from a
private university "crossed the threshold". In the outline of the weekend
activities was a slot for "Fathers" which alternatively or silently also
speaks of mothers. The young men were asked to give their name, father's
and grandfather's as far back as one could go then also give names of sons
and grandsons if it applies. (A rough estimate gave almost 80% of the men
taking part in this process reporting that their male role model was their
mothers because they did not have fathers as they grew up and some have
never seen their fathers). What struck me was one young man who, midway a
process decided he would not take part any more and walked away. I spoke to
him as he walked away and he broke down in sobs with the statement " I cut
him out of my life", " me and my mum we don't need him any more in our
life". If any of you have worked with such issues in a classroom
environment, what suggestions or comments could you offer as a way to take
this work further as classroom exercises? what might I need to consider or
think about?
Many Thanks
Lawrence Ngorora
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David Slade
Family Tree Care
www.family-tree-care.com
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