Bernardo, It is often how we start, to gather friends together in a group to
show them and to practice doing the work. From my perpective, if you make it
clear, as it sounds that you plan to do, that you are wanting to practice
facilitating and that you also want them to see the possibilities of this work,
it will be more clear. You can tell them that you are not beginning a new
relationship with them as their therapist, but rather showing the way
constellation work deals with common issues people have. I have worked with
people over the years who have become friends, and I find that when I stay
firmly in my role as facilitator, I can pay attention to the issue without
letting friendship influence me. When a place comes in which I have to be
courageous, I have to find that courage whether they are a friend or a client.
It is a good practice for me. If a person's issue, seems too much, you can say
that and refer them to someone with more experience. That also in an option for
friends and clients alike. For me, this way has worked. Would love to hear how
your workshop went! all the best, sheila
Illness and Soul with Stephan Hausner Feb. 5-6 in Asheville, NC
Constellations and Trauma Healing with Johannes Schmidt May 13-15 in Asheville,
NC
Sheila Saunders, RN, LMFT
www.systemicfamilysolutions.com
PO Box 1011 Weaverville, North Carolina 28787
828-273-5015
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters
compared to what lies within us.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
To: ConstellationTalk@yahoogroups.comFrom: bernardorosaramirez@gmail.comDate:
Thu, 10 Jan 2008 18:20:04 +0000Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Question about
friendship
Hello from Portugal,In my upcoming workshop I will have many friends present.
That is for me ablessing. But it also means a challenge.Many people have said
that you should not "facilitate" (not sure you canwrite it like this) a friends
constellation.I am focusing on asking the people on the workshop to agree that
I shalljust be a facilitator during the workshop.But I would like to know more
about your arguments on the matter.Thanks in advance,Bernardo[Non-text portions
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