Dear Sneh
Thank you. You do dive deeply and all your posts have been real treasures for
me.
Please keep it coming!
hugs
Anutosh
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From: Sneh Victoria
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Cc: Sneh Victoria
Sent: Thursday, January 29, 2009 5:16 AM
Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Re: Holotrophic breathing
Hi everyone, and Blanche in particular: welcome!
just when I lately was thinking a lot about all the great techniques
I experienced and learned in my life, for instance breath work,:
rebirthing, holotropic breathing- it shows up in CT! Interesting!
In the late 70th I did a long workshop with Stan Grof and his future
wife. The title was: "Birth, Sexuality and Death". It was - besides
many things - like an initiation into a deeper place of being, the
beginning of a spiritual path.
At no point did I feel re-traumatized, even though I did dive into 2
major traumas of my own. I came through and ended in one of my
deepest religious experiences ever.
Years later I trained at my indian masters ashram in something
called: breath awareness, where we used stronger than usual breathing
together with witnessing. The main point was the meditation part in
it, to not loose the watcher while encountering strong emotions. Also
there I did not see anybody being traumatized through the process.
And yet, I would expect this today, after a 3 year long training in
Somatic Experiencing and quite a few workshops with Peter Levine and
all my learning about the the ways the nervous system works.
This leaves me believing:
It is not the technique, but the ones using them: "US" and also the
environment, where we do what we do. A place has a soul, many
experienced this in constellations. Anne Ancelin Schützenberger ("Oh,
my ancesters") and Rupert Sheldrake (in many books) hint in this
direction, even though with many different words.
My same traumas had their day also in constellation work, when
different layers of the old stories showed up some 15 years ago and
again during the SE training last year.
I would not wonder, if they showed up again at some other junction of
my life, like sign posts, to keep me interested in my own life´s story.
What was the most important learning from all of it for me: None of
the methods were better or safer, or brought more inside to me- they
simply were the right ones at their time- and I just seem to feel the
most at home with working with "putting in scenes", placing
constellations, having people as vessels of feeling- sensing-
understanding, sharing their inside...
(Who knows, maybe tomorrow I might want to apply breathing into
working in constellations.)
This all leaves me (again) wondering: what is it than, that we as
trainers can teach about how to be a constellation facilitator?
Aside from all that can be read and experienced in doing your own
constellations, what are the qualities most needed in working with
people?
Something more: in most of my trainings I had someone who only took
part for their own good, without wanting to become a facilitator- and
invariably they were at the end amongst the most accomplished.
Could it be that the most important part about how to be a
facilitator is to first be a mensch, and that if we support this
before anything else, we support this work best?
Oh my, where am I going. Well: for everybody who is still with me
here, how about creating a training that has at it's core profound
learning about -meditation and mindfulness- about how to love
yourself so you can truly love the people who come to you- about not
caring for success and not caring for failure either- about how to
reach the place where wright and wrong don't matter and so on. This
could happen while learning about constellations, even through
constellations, and many other techniques too.
I am truly interested in knowing who has similar ideas, or
controversial ones.
I hope we can continue to inspire one another. It is already
happening to me with these last weeks' mails,
Sneh
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