Re: [ConstellationTalk] phone constellation
- From: Alison Rose Levy <LevyAR@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- To: "ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx" <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Thu, 05 Feb 2009 23:03:50 -0500
Dear Rita, Elmar, Ed, and all:
I¹ve done quite a bit of this kind of phone work and it seems to be quite
powerful for people. You can also ask the person to speak to one of the family
members or ask them things like: ³And if (s)he could speak to you what would
he want you to know?² and then you can work with what the person says and fine
tune the language. You can ask, ³How does he look/feel when you say that..?²
This works well with the basic NLP orientation of noticing whether the person
has stronger visual, auditory, or kinesthetic awareness and then you can shade
the languaging of the intervention to their strongest preference.
It also interfaces well with focusing tuning into the felt sense to assure
that the process remains grounded. I will often begin and end the session that
way both to check in with a client who I may never have met in person and also
to help them center and integrate the experience at the end. Something I
learned from both Sneh and Daan is the importance of connecting the client
with tangible resources and I feel it¹s particularly crucial in phone work.
This also ties in with my experience as a coach returning from the depths of
the field to the practical with an action step or ³takeaway² of some kind, if
needed.
I had one client who was virtually a hermit, had been profoundly socially
isolated throughout her life, and who after a few sessions told me that she
had ³spirit guides² who she wanted to bring in. I deferred that until we had
addressed some significant familial relationships and ultimately, it never
went there but it did make me wonder whether this form of work (without being
present, with the grounding that entails), would be potentially disorienting
to certain kinds of clients. Was that simply my own lack of familiarity in
working with spirit guides? Perhaps some of the shamans in the group could
address that. Or perhaps with clients one meets first or only by phone, it¹s
important to assure that the experience remains grounded. Would it be
contra-indicated for some? ... Would welcome other folks¹ experiences with
that.
Alison
Dear Rita
I have done phone constellations. You have the client do it in their
mind and describe it to you. You ask them who needs to be present for
this issue, have them set up the people in their mind and describe to
you their positions etc. Then you ask what kind of conversation would
be going on. Have the person do it very slowly and make sure you have
all the details for you to feel like you are present and are watching
it. Then you will intuitively know what the next question or move will
be. To me this process was slow but still very effective, specially
for someone who did not have any other resources.
I hope this helps,
Elmar
Elmar@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx <mailto:Elmar%40Hemisphereconsulting.com>
On Feb 4, 2009, at 2:40 PM, Rita Martino wrote:
Hello All;
I received a call this a.m.from a woman requesting a phone
constellation???? (have not heard of such a constellation taking
place) or did I know a Facilitator/Practitioner in or near Kenai
Alaska....which is 3 hours from Anchorage...
I said I would see if I could gather any information and call her.
Can any of you direct me further? Thank you in advance and
blessings to you. Rita
Warm Regards,
Rita Ann Martino
awakeningfamilyconstellations.com
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Other related posts:
