I am reminded of the story Bert wrote or I came across in FC writings,
about the doctor that visited a patient
and saw death standing at the end of the bed,,,,,not wanting his young
patient to die
he turned the bed around and the following week he died...
do we just keep moving the bed around.....until we gain the insight that we
need in order to find a deeper or different level of acceptance...
Jonine Lee
----- Original Message -----
From: "Ulrike Danks" <ulrikedanks@xxxxxxxxxxx>
To: <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Monday, June 04, 2007 6:43 PM
Subject: RE: [ConstellationTalk] transference of symptoms between siblings
Dear all,
I was just browsing the internet in pursue of a particular FC topic, when I
came across a paragraph that surprised and touched me as it could relate to
our family.
Here is the paragraph from a German interview of Stefan Hausner by Marianne
Franke published on Stefan's website www.stephan-hausner.de:
'Ich habe auch immer wieder erlebt, wenn sich ein Geschwister aus einer
Verstrickung löst, es manchmal ein anderes Kind aus dieser Familie plötzlich
schwerer hat oder sogar die Symptome übernimmt: Das findet man vor allem
dann, wenn die Eltern, aus welchem Grund auch immer, sich dem ausgegrenzten
Thema nicht stellen können.'
english Translation:
'I have expereinced again and again, that when one sibling resolves an
entanglement for him/herself, sometimes another sibling of this family
suddenly has a hard time or even takes on the symptoms: You find that
particularily when for whatever reasons the parents are not able to address
the excluded issue'
This appears to be the case in our family, where my sister (having had
several cancer scares) and myself ( having been through treatment and
recovery) have after much work and soul movements disentangled ourselves
from our father's/parents fate's and have a brother, who is now very sick
with cancer. Being familiar with the particular systemic entanglement, that
led to the female siblings dis-eases, I know that my brother is also
entangled in a very similar way.
Has anybody experienced similar fates or encountered them in their work? I
want to say that I am at peace with my brother's fate, and (not but) his
pain and fear touches my heart and makes me feel closer than ever to him.
I have not heard before about this particular possibility of tranference.
With gratitude to all of you for the many rich learnings I receive via this
forum.
Ulrike
Ulrike Danks
Systems and Family Constellations WA
10 Bavin St. Denmark WA 6333
Western Australia - 61 - (0)8 - 98481280
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