Dear Anne and Alison,
You both bring up some interesting and relevant points.
I've found that for most people new to constellation work, the
spirit-mind way of working drives them crazy. Although I won't argue its
merits, I do
think we have to take into consideration the conscious minds of new people. We
may work at a level beyond consciousness, but their minds still need
something on which to hold. Their minds must be appeased in some way--as little
as
that may be--in order for them to feel some satisfaction with the work. If
they don't, they don't come back.
In the evening format, there are usually too many people and too little
time to work that way. You may have time for only one such constellation and
get very few returning. Of course I'm presuming that we want people to come
back.
In the weekend format, I've found it nice to include at least one
spirit-mind constellation. I usually do this on the second day by which time
all the
new people have gathered some experience and developed a level of trust in
the field and the way the field works.
I've also found it beneficial to reserve this type of constellation for
those who have had several constellations before but still can't accept one or
both parents. They are usually intellectual, defiant at what has previously
been shown, and caught in their minds and stories. The spirit-mind way of
working then allows the mind and stories to be bypassed and the healing to
take
place without their protestations.
But even in these cases, I have found that most people still don't like
them. But framed by other types of constellations--structural and
nonstructural--over two days, it doesn't irritate them as much. They return to
future
workshops. Facilitators and those experienced in constellations, however,
usually
love the spirit-mind way of working. Personally, I do too.
I think all of it has a place. There are facilitators who say "let the
field do the work," and refuse to move people themselves, calling it
manipulation of the field. But moving people manually can have a beneficial
effect and
can quite often be the only piece that is needed to restore order in a system
and bring peace. In other words, we as facilitators have to be flexible and
open to whatever is available and whatever works.
If we work only in service to spirit-mind, then we don't have to worry
about people returning. But if we also work to help people, then we can't
drive
them away from our groups and have to take their responses into
consideration. I think we can work in service to spirit-mind and still be
mindful of the
needs of those with whom we are working.
Thanks,
Larry Kessler
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Hi Ann and Anni:
This thread touches on something I¹ve contemplated for some time‹ the use
the phrase-- ³spirit-mind.²than
First of all, residing in a left-brained city on the East Coast, rather
in a more right-brain dominated location, I want to first disclose that Ihour,
practice classical constellations for three reasons:
1. I like to follow what is going on
2. I lack sufficient charisma for clients to patiently sit still for an
believing that something is happening that they cannot perceive; andpractice
3. I feel that a key component in constellations is the effect of
externalizing ones inner family picture out where others can witness it and
empathize, and that is undermined when the participants are bored or can¹t
tell what is going on‹ which I¹ve experienced through other styles of
It¹s great that Hellinger continues coming up with new phrases, and peoplewho
first encounter the work through him today and tomorrow will perhaps adoptit.
them without reflection. Others who lack other spiritual training may also
elect to use them. And some may simply like the phrase and choose to use
whether
But for me, having trained with Hellinger in the past, and having practiced
for a few years, I have to make a conscious choice about whether a newly
introduced phrase illuminates a previously dark corner of reality, or
it¹s gratuitous. I must confess that from the first time I heard the phrasenot. As
³spirit-mind,² it irritated me like the sound of nails on a blackboard and
still has the same effect.
Why? I ask myself.
As a coiner of phrases myself (I¹m a professional writer), I know how
auto-intoxicated one can become by one¹s own inventions, but as a
professional, I¹ve had to be rigorous about whether or not my inventions
serve. Time and again I¹ve thrown out beloved phrases because they did
a result, I guess I¹ve developed my own inner radar for determining that.full
Something about the phrase ³spirit-mind² goes beep-beep-beep on that radar.
Hellinger is undoubtedly a genius at naming and coining phrases‹
³constellations, representatives, entanglements, I do it for you, at the
price²‹ and the list goes on. Even though they leave us the task ofinitiating
new workshop participants into their experience and meaning, think howmany
dynamics are clarified by their use.an
Can the same be said of ³spirit-mind?²
Many ancient paths have useful phrases that point towards the ineffable:
consciousness, soul, spirit, divinity, higher power, the way, the Tao, God,
goddess, the I am, shekhina, shakti... Modern psychology might speak of
intuition, feeling function, felt sense.
So I ask why does family constellation work require its own term? Does that
term contribute something that no one has previously identified? Or is it
³in-phrase,² which through our adoption of it makes us special, different,or
self-signifying as belonging to this particular group? Do we want to standform?
apart from our clients as having our own spiritual path integral to this
And if so, what path is that?that
A key theme in our work is that each one of us has the right parents and
we accept life through them. We are very sensitive about not supercedingadopt a
anyone¹s parent via interposing between parent and child. But what about
peoples¹ spiritual or faith paths? Do those working this form need to
constellation specific spiritual path? Or does our work dissolve back intoa
greater whole?on
The Eastern paths which I¹ve studied typically offer some means for work
one¹s ego, one¹s clinging to small self, for developing humility, orwhatever
you want to call it‹ in our work, bowing is a way to connect with humilityand
smallness.demonstrated.
Yet inflation can be one of the occupational risks of facilitating
constellations‹ as some feel Hellinger himself has occasionally
that
For me, if constellations are a path to knowing in a spiritual dimension,
path is more empowered through not-naming, then through naming.It¹s
But perhaps that is just my preference, or my Jewish ancestry seeping in.
also that my own spiritual leanings are more towards the Taoist which givesinterposes
the human a place between heaven and earth. I like that place ‹ I feel I
belong there. For me, the heaven/ etheric accent of ³spirit-mind² does not
sufficiently encompass the earth, the natural, and the water-y flow that
really resonates for me. Five element theory teaches that we are made up of
all the elements. We each can choose our favorites for metaphoric use, to
heal, to image‹ but I personally reserve the right to do that rather than
having someone else¹s preference put out for general adoption.
One of my first teachers in this work once said that: ³Anyone who
themselves between you and your direct relationship to the divine is in thedigest
way.²
A related teaching is: ³If you meet the Buddha in the road, kill him..²
For me, the knowing that representatives regularly access is plenty to
and convey to my clients-- without my making myself into a high priestessof
spirit-mind.be
So‹ spirit-mind- So‹ spirit-mind-<WBR>
Alison
Dear Dan and all,
I am very interested in the questions raised in this thread. You touched on
some of my reflections after attending the training with Bert Hellinger in
Louisville in November.
I joined Constellation Talk right after that workshop. Having trained in
2006, I am still a relatively new facilitator. I am hungry to understand
more, to learn from others who have been immersed in this work, and so I
have followed all the conversations in Constellation Talk intently. But
I have been quite shy about throwing out my questions, which I fear might
controversial, to a group of strangers. I kept hoping one of theI
threads would address them directly, but this has not happened. So I guess
am just going to have to become an active participant in the dialogue!presented
I did not find Hellinger's new way of working with Spirit-Mind, as
in Louisville, as engaging as the more structured Constellation work I wascriteria
trained in. I am wondering how many constellators are actually using this
type of work, and how many are not, and for what reasons. I have not
experienced other facililators, at the Asheville conference or elsewhere,
moving in this direction. Yet many seemed to find the Louisville
training quite powerful. Personally, while over the course of the week I
found his newer way of working led me into a more grounded, meditative
state, it also left me quite unsettled on several levels.
I understand that in this model, where the facililator barely intervenes,
the movements unfold very slowly. While in Louisville I was willing to
settle into this slower pace, because I am no stranger to "waiting for the
Spirit", it was not always clear what was unfolding. For instance, one day
Bert told us, "I am going to do a demonstration. Bert told us, "I am going t
was a demonstration of. I told myself to be patient, and surely it would
become obvious by the end. When it was over, after close to two hours, and
I was still confused, I thought, "Well, now he will explain it," but he did
not. I discussed it with a few other people, and no one really seemed to
know for sure what it was that had been demonstrated. This would still have
been okay; the left brain does not necessarily have to be satisfied, but
even my right brain, with its great tolerance for ambiguity, found itself
feeling somehow cheated.
Is it possible that this Spirit-Mind work, with its lack of a clear intake,
the blindness of the representation, the lack of sentences, and the very
limited interventions by the facilitator, is so amorphous as to become
inaccessible except in quite rarified circles?
The whole question of discernment is so critical in working with various
spiritual practices. How do we know something is of the Spirit? The
traditional answer is by its fruits. In Constellation work, as in prayer,
the fruits are neither obvious nor necessarily immediate, but in my
experience there is often a sense of heightened energy, a tangible sense of
awe within the energy field of the circle. But if the experience of a
movement of the Spirit-Mind is as subjective and variable as I experienced
often in the Louisville workshop - some in the circle understanding one
thing, some another, some extraordinarily moved, others left wondering,
scratching their heads about what has just transpired, what are the
for discernment?in
I have trouble imagining using this approach in my workshops because I am
concerned about its erudite quality (e.g. only comprehensible to the
initiated). Nor can I use an approach that does not speak to me personally.
This does not mean that I am not deeply cognizant of, and empassioned by,
the workings of Spirit-Mind. But perhaps, as I believe Dan might have been
saying in this last thread, I recognize that we cannot operate completely
the transcendent sphere without risking losing something of the human, and(mailto:danbcohen@xxxxxxx)
human beings need at least some tiny modicum of the concrete, of story, to
create a context for spirtual transformation.
I did find at the workshop a minority of participants who were similarly
troubled by this new approach. It would have been wonderful to have been
able to dialogue, but there was no opportunity. So again, I would like to
know now whether others are using this "new way of working," as Bert
Hellinger calls it, or whether you are still leading more traditional
Constellations, and if so, why. I would love an honest dialogue about this.
Thank you so much.
Anne
On Wed, Mar 11, 2009 at 2:00 PM, Dan Booth Cohen <_danbcohen@rcn.dan_
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Sadhana -
Here again is the photo taken by my wife:
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ocean>
It is me and my younger daughter Rosie dipping our toes in water. The
consciousnessis an apt metaphor for the spirit-mind. It is vast and moves of its own
accord, carrying life, creation and destruction with it. The
wrong.of the ocean cares nothing for the fate of any particular organism.
Innumerable forms come into birth and disintegrate in death with each
passing of the Sun. To the ocean, there is no good or bad, right or
swept
It is wonderful to come into contact with the consciousness of the ocean
spirit-mind. Still, to my wife on the beach, my daughter and I being
beout to sea is bad and wrong; returning our toes to the sand is good and
right. Holding her hand, I dare not lose myself in the surf. That would
metaphysics.bad. How can I be a husband and father without good and bad, right and>
wrong?
Some go deeper. Some stay safer. Stephan Jay Gould explained that where
scientific knowledge ends, "Each of us has to have a personal
piecesThere are questions that are formally unanswerable on which nonetheless
every individual must take a position in order to integrate various
(mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx)of his life." These are personal, subjective choices. What is right for>
you is right for you.
The common thread that unites the members of ConstelationTalk is we look>
from a space of no thought for what has been separated. Yes, wholeness
happens. Yes, there is the healing.
Dan
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Hi Dan,
Many thanks for your insights. Here are some further thoughts on
restoration or
Healing by definition is the process of recovery, repair and
such"a return to wholeness."
For me the question is not what is there to heal? My experience of using
this question -and I used it for a very long time -is this. When I ask
me,a question I have discovered that it is bound. It is bound to a plan, a
beginning,an end, an aim and a destination which would be according to
assessmy mind. Because this question came first I consequently compare and
toeverything that question comes into contact with. In this I am too busy
healing.see, hear, feel, sense etc.
What works for me is "looking" from a space of no thought, for what has
been seperated. Embracing that, "wholeness" happens.. There is the
dimension.
Unlike you Dan my toe is not enough in this greater spirit-mind
wayI aspire to set up residence not only in doing a constellation but as a
onof life. The more I dare, the deeper I go. As I learn to trust and feel
safe in these waters, I find myself shouting from the waters edge "come
<mailto:Constellatimailto:Constellamailto:C<<WBR>Constellati<WBR>Constellatiin the water's fine!">
Lots of love to you Dan Sadhana>
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Subject: RE: [ConstellationTalk] 2 questions about the teachings of
Hellinger
Dear Mariann -
Welcome to ConstellationTalk! One of the special characteristics of our
virtual community is we encourage and tolerate a great range of
inMembers come from every continent, speak different mother tongues, work
time. Mya
variety of professions, have varying degrees of experience with the
Constellation process, and embrace differing personal mythologies.
Your question opens a topic that has been sitting with me for some
perhaps,view is that Bert Hellinger's ideas are easily misinterpreted.. Or
bad,they are being correctly interpreted and I disagree.
He says there is no good and bad, no right and wrong in the dimension of
the
spirit-mind. This is quite different from saying there is no good and
ourno right and wrong. The distinction is that we do not wake-up in the
morning, commute to work, shop for groceries, call our Mums, argue with
bedsiblings, become annoyed with our partners, brush our teeth, and get to
evenin the dimension of the spirit-mind. Except for spiritual masters (and
rightthen), we live our days in the ordinary slip-slide of good and bad,
themand wrong.> When people come to me asking for a Constellation, my aim is not plant
glimpsein transcendent harmony with the spirit-mind. If they can catch a
concreteof it from the corner of their eye, I have done my job. They bring
of aissues and concerns. The Constellation helps them see the possibility
thishealing movement that can unfold in the ordinary dimension of day-to-day> life and relationship. Good and bad, right and wrong are abundant in
focaldimension.
What is there to heal? That is always my first question. That is my
interaction.> point when the Constellation begins. It is the destination where the
Constellation is aimed. It is how I assess the quality of my
putIf I dare to step into the greater spirit-mind dimension, it is only to
myself,my toe in for a few moments, not to set up residence.> operate from different personal mythologies. I am only speaking for
Others members of ConstellationTalk are on different spiritual paths and
Hellingernot attempting to cover Bert's words with a blanket.>
Good question!
Dan
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] 2 questions about the teachings of
may>
Hello,
I am a new member on this discussion group, and as such, my questions
that isnot fit with your topics of discussion. The only way to find out if
Novemberthe case is by sending you my questions I pondered during the 2008
rightworkshop of Bert Hellinger in Kentucky.
Bert opened his workshop by saying that "there is no good and bad, no
mover",and wrong" as all events have been thought out by the "intelligent
whatthe "Spirit-Mind" , and all events serve a larger picture that we cannot
comprehend. If that is the case, if there is no right and wrong, then,
when heis there to heal?
Perhaps Bert answered this question on the last day of the workshop
nottalked about images, and how images create humans' reality, which are
healthe same "reality" as the spirit-mind dimension. So maybe we need to
is OK> these broken images that make up our reality until we realize that it
doto leave these images behind and we dare to step into the greater
spirit-mind dimension where these hurts are no longer relevant.... What
won'tyou think?> The second question I have is how one should conduct one's life so we
futurepass on to the next generations our burdens that will entangle those
lives? Should this be a goal? Or am I just trying to influence something>
that is beyond my control?
Please be kind to me if my questions are not within your topics.
Regards,
Mariann
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