Re: Energy in the family field

From: "Gail" <gail_m_allen@xxxxxxxxxxx>
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Date: Tue, 22 May 2007 15:10:45 -0000

Hi Margaret,

Thank you for this, yes it answers my questions and much more, will
enjoy turning these ideas over and allowing them to brew.

Gail.

--- In ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, "Margreet Mossel"
<margreetmossel@...> wrote:

Dear Gail

(and all other colleagues from the CT)

I promised to come back to you later with an answer, it took a

while for I

have been busy. But now I have made some time for it.

I was trained as a physiotherapist and sometimes later I learned

metaphysics

too. (Alice Baily has written down beautiful books about

metaphysics, and

they are translated in many languages. They are a bit hard to

understand at

first, so I was very happy with my teacher who helped me to

understand it

better.) My teachers famous first words were: Before we begin we

have to

understand death and sexuality, only then we can begin to grow. I

never

forgot that, and she was completely right, as long as we are still

confused

about these issues we cant get clear on any other aspect.

Constellation work

has taught me so much about death and has helped me to understand

more about

life and staying clear.

Although I had learned and understood a lot in these days about the

soul and

the spirit, the main thing that my clients needed was very simple:

to find

out if a problem, disease or pain was physical, emotional or

mental. That

gave them enough clarity to go on with their lives. As a therapist

I am

aware of the fact that these three levels need a different

approach. It

would be too much to describe this fully, but with some short

examples I

will give it a try.

You understand yourself better if you realise that you only suffer

from a

MENTAL IDEA, like "my mother was not good enough'. One of the

solutions is

to look at this idea closely and see if it is true, the whole truth

and

'nothing but the truth' Then you smile about your misunderstandings

and just

love your mother.

If you suffer from an EMOTION like sadness it is usually a

secondary emotion

(Because primary emotions go away after some time by themselves and
therefore you don't need help or therapy for them. Life takes care

of them)

Then it helps to ask yourself: 'Where in my body do I feel this" Go

to this

place and listen what your body has to tell you about it. Then you

can feel

the primary emotion underneath it and look at the logical reason

for that

emotion, eg fear because something threatening like an anaesthesia

has

happened to you when you were two months old. Allow the fear to

come up and

breathe it out, update your age (usually this is an old emotion

from the

time you were still very young) and continue your life with love.

If it is

an emotion that you have taken over from someone else then a

constellation

or another way of systemic work is a wonderful help to see that you

never

help someone by being loyal to their feelings, it only burdens them

more. If

you don't want that then you let go and honour their fate.

If you suffer from a PHYSICAL problem, you need to listen to what

your body

needs and every now and then give in to that. So often we burden

our body

with ideas of how it should be or we are basically unfair to our

body. Or we

abuse our body by holding on to an old emotion for a long time. My

favourite

sentence in my practise was when a client complained about having

problems

with her back: do you have problems with your back or does your

back have

problems with you? And sometimes you need a skilful therapist to

help you

understand what your body needs, if it is a long-lasting and

complicated

imbalance.

When these three levels are more clear and less confused, then the

voice of

the SOUL can be heard more clearly. We know this from the

expression: 'deep

in my heart I know that .' There is never doubt in your heart when

you

listen to the soul.

So when the magical world of constellations came into my life, I

was very

happy with this instrument that made the soul so tangible, visible,

audible.

Like the grass or the trees can make the wind visible. I have

learned so

much about life by listening and looking to what the soul showed us

in all

these constellations.

I don't work as a physical therapist anymore, but when I do

constellations

or systemic consultations these three levels - body, emotion and

mental -

are dealt with first, before we go on with the systemic work. This

saves a

lot of time and confusion.

I hope I have answered your question the way you wanted it

Kind regards and all the best

Margreet Mossel

www.opstellingen.com <http://www.opstellingen.com/>

Van: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] Namens Gail
Verzonden: woensdag 7 maart 2007 1:38
Aan: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Onderwerp: [ConstellationTalk] Re: Energy in the family field

Thank you Margaret,

Yes I am still struggling with definitions and am sometimes

imprecise in the

applications of words to phenomenology. I do agree that more
precision helps us to share, learn and agree about what we observe.

Although

it can be tricky when we talk about something so large with
many people experiencing different facets of it.
When I used the term "family soul" I was applying it to something I

feel in

the field. It is something that binds the family together, it
forbids and permits, and involves blind loyalty rather than

conscious love.

It's purpose seems to be about protection and survival, and in
the service of these goals it is prepared to sacrifice anything

necessary,

including the wellbeing of family members, truth and other
qualities which we regard as noble. As the struggle for survival

gets

harder, this also gets harder. Ahh...perhaps I am talking about the
family conscience.
Could you share an example of a problem that stems from emotional

or other

issues compared to a problem with systemic roots.

Gail

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