Dear All,
I keep wanting to contribute to this thread but then someone else says it
even better. I felt so bad when the news came out that Chris was censoring
our contributions and then I talked myself out of those feelings because I
like Chris and I trust him. But I agree with what is being said here and I
would like to add that systemically, I felt reduced with this news of being
censored. I felt my status in this group shift from adult to child with
Chris as the "all knowing benevolent parent." That isn't a good place for
me or Chris or any of us. There is now a threat of conformity and
exclusion that I hadn't been aware of prior to this new guideline being
revealed.
So I am wondering Chris, is it possible to hold off on this level of
moderating until there actually IS a problem? And if people are posting
stuff that is not in line with the guidelines can we all be in on the
decision to block them? Not that we all have a final say but that there is
some open discussion about it? It seems to me that you have a fear of
something happening and now you are acting on that fear and now even more
fear has been created which is of course what happens when one starts with
fear as a motivator for anything.
I would suggest that we all intend together that this forum be protected
from those who would want to destroy it and that it be kept open and free
for all of us to express our views and needs and insights as eloquently or
as poorly as our souls can manage. I have been so happy to be a part of it
and I feel Chris has done a great job of keeping us within our guidelines.
I would love to see it continue in its open and free way. I don't think it
belongs to Chris any more than the Knowing Field belongs to any of us. I
would love to allow it to have a life of its own and see where it takes us.
With deep gratitude to all of you who are on this journey,
Barbara Eggenberger, MFT
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From: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Anutoshf
Sent: Monday, December 15, 2008 7:29 AM
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] Group moderation & C.Talk Guidelines
Dear Friends
Thank you Alemka and Sneh.
You have both expressed very clearly my viceral response to the moderation
process.
Yes, let the forum fly. We have all heard this before that out of chaos,
many stars are born.
Dietrich Weth used to say that this work is so much "Bigger" then us and it
is really not in our hands and i see this "Bigger" being expressed here
amongst us as we share ourselves through this forum being inspired by the
gift of this work.
Thank you Chris for making it possible for us to meet in this way which
invites for lots of stretching and being naked with each other. I am not
comfortable with anyone's contribution being excluded. We already know that
we are each part of the bigger whole and this work broadcasts it very loudly
and clearly. I agree with Sneh that we have the innate ability to monitor
for ourselves and bounce back. Besides all the differences make it more
juicy and fun. Also if my buttons get pushed, so much the better as this
will prevent me from snoring into Life and thinking i know it all.
Thank you Max regarding the rightful place for Bert Hellinger for ISCA. I
consider this gesture, Constellation Work 101. If not, all of these years of
exploring this work and growing with it would truly be in vain in my
opinion.
many hugs
Anutosh
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From: Sneh Victoria
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
<mailto:ConstellationTalk%40yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Sunday, December 14, 2008 10:40 AM
Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] Group moderation & C.Talk Guidelines
Dear Chris,
The new addition in the moderation process does something funny with
me. It rather diminishes my joy of sharing in this forum.
I am still pondering why, and nevertheless will try to explain. So
far I found this forum a most beautiful place to share, explore and
have fun. For this I am utterly grateful to you. Just today I talked
with my group of trainees about it, encouraging them to join, talking
about the great open minded discussions we are having. Now I feel I
might have offered a toothless tiger to them.
What made you feel it necessary to go in this direction? I truly find
it a pity. I also believe it rather feeds distrust and hampers open
discussion. But I also must say I have no idea what disturbing mails
if any you might have had to deal with in the past. (But even than I
would rather like to choose to have my own opinion about it.)
And: I am totally aware this being your forum and therefore you
should truly do what fits to your needs. I also am glad you ask for
feedback and that is what I am trying to do with this mail.
I believe there is a part in me who wants to say: relax, you do not
need to protect us, we are all grown up and certainly had to deal
with a lot of worse stuff in our lives than hurtful and unfriendly
feedback. I just cannot believe that any one working with the tuff
issues we often have to face in constellations would want to choose
to take part in a forum that feels like a toothless tiger. So my
suggestion is: give some credit to our all ability to bounce back,
our own good judgement and let the forum fly!
With warmth, Sneh
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