Re: Relief to burn victim

From: "amina_halwany" <amina_halwany@xxxxxxxxx>
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Date: Sun, 12 Nov 2006 09:30:15 -0000

Hi Chris,
Thank you very much for your valuable suggestions, really, also for
the time you took to answer me. I will experiment with the breathing
and see what comes out for me. Now, I am not repusled by her burns.
I was afraid in the beginning looking at them, but then I gradually
did. I saw her back once as they were putting some medicines on it.
It was really horrible. I noticed after that sight, that the next
few days I was anxious and irritatable. Gradually I am getting more
and more used to her wounds and as time goes by, I find myself
looking at them closer and seeing more details.
What I also notice is that when I guide her into relaxation and she
relaxes I find myself then overwhelmed by sadness, and I feel i want
to cry.
She is also very lonely and has no family with her.
Thank you Chris and all,
Amina h

--- In ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, "Chris Walsh"
<chrisjwalsh@...> wrote:

Hi Amina
just the human contact you give this burnt woman is worth its

weight in gold.

Many people experience revulsion at the sight of such deformity

and in the presence of such intense pain. They can't just sit with
it and the person concerned. One way we try to deal with this
intensity if we cannot hold it is to try to "fix" it or "heal" it.
So the very first step must be to do nothing but just be with the
person and their suffering. Then we need to wait until we are called
by the field to help if we want our help to be helpful. If we are
only treating our own discomfort it will agitate the patient deep
down even if they pretend to be appreciative.

One way to hold this suffering is to focus on your breathing and

that of your patient. Then notice any discomfort or revulsion that
you might experience. Notice how that feels in your body without
feeding it or trying to get rid of it. Just let it be. Let go of any
story that enters your head about this experience and simply come
back to the physical sensations and the sense of connection with
this woman. As time passes you will notice shifts in the sensations
and in your connection with this woman.

You could then visualise her parents and her family supporting

your patient and in your heart you could bow with respect to them.
That will further ground any active interventions you might try.
With these attitudes I am sure the best interventions will come to
you intuitively.

hasta la vista
Chris Walsh
Melbourne, Australia

My  Website: www.cwalsh.com.au

  ----- Original Message -----
  From: amina_halwany
  To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  Sent: Sunday, 12 November 2006 5:22 AM
  Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Relief to burn victim

  Hello,
  I am working with a woman who is severely burnt, she is at the
  hospital. My main focus is to help her deal with the pain, life

and

death, sometimes hallucinations, etc. I wonder if anyone of you

have

any experience with burn victims and whether anyone knows what

would

be a good way to approach her pain. I use relaxation techniques

with

her and she likes them a lot. I checked on the internet and

found that

some virtual reality seem to be helpful. Probably I can use with

the

relaxation more visualisation of cold... This is not for the

time

being a systemic issue, my client is not capable of working on

that

  level yet.
  Thank you,
  Amina H



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