Thanks Chuck,
I was initially alarmed as the issue holder only contacted me after the
workshop to tell me she and the man knew each other. Neither had acknowledged
it during the workshop. She also told me that he was "obsessed" with her. - So
something about that lack of information at the beginning of the session
alarmed me. Usually I check who knows who at the beginning of a session and
for some reason this time, I didn't.
As you say, she appeared to be happy to talk in his presence - but as the
person responsible for setting up and holding the workshop, I could see that
from her experience keeping herself safe and boundaried was not something she
was accustomed to.
Each of these sentences that I write is so short - and yet, each concludes a
very long discussion in my own mind! : )
I will now be adding into my initial contract, the point that you make about
self-care. So thank you for that very useful contribution.
