New Year's Greetings Everyone !
While I do not usually entertain discussion such as Vinay experienced
because I feel that it disturbs the client, and in trauma work the principle
is "less is more ", I do have a criteria for myself as to whether the work
was of benefit. Usually, but not always, because this also has a
potential to disturb, I ask the group, " has the client changed ? And then,
I ask
the client, " Has the group changed? If the work is successful the client
will have changed in positive ways, more open, settled, clearer, relaxed,
smiling even...and so on. Also when the work is successful the client's
perception of the group often changes and they may report, brighter colosr,
really being able to see faces, feeling the group as friendlier and more
supportive and so on. If the client remains unchanged and perceives no
changes in the group then I assume that the work was not successful and will
say so and then may try another approach or just stop there. In such cases,
I then know that I have more to learn and never "blame" the client,
because this is unkind and I feel that it is important to simply acknowledge
the reality of the situation and not pretend that "the work worked, but the
client was not ready, or resistant" or send a message that the constellation
is right and the client wrong.
Simply put, I feel that the bottom line, after a constellation, is to
observe the client. That being said, since I am a trauma specialist, I rarely
confront resistance since I feel that resistance is important information
as to why the client may not be yet prepared to do the work . If this is
the case, then I focus on building resources and avoiding anything might
overwhelm an already overwhelmed person.
Warm regards,
Anngwyn St. Just Ph.D.
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