Dear Change Dancer Cohen,
Your attempt at attempting to enlanguage the ineffable is admirable but may be
futuile, I guess or hint we might or might not say.
Being is being and as such is not predicatable, especially by language
constrained by egoic deep language structure of whatever language of the
earth's cultural conserves.
Still "das Ewig weibliche zieht uns heran..."(Goethe) and so as Elliot we are
left with hints and guesses,
the subjunctive conditional but never the indicative as we can not indicate
anything here only point at the moon... images on the edge...blessings on your
continued important work for those who await Godot behind prison bars unlike
the rest of us who make believe the bars don't exist...you just might find the
site foxo.org refreshing...best joseph
Enneapsychodramatics
Dr.Joseph M. Pirone 2018033080
On Wednesday, January 02, 2008, at 01:36PM, "Dan Booth Cohen"
<danbcohen@xxxxxxx> wrote:
"Freud knew there was a river. Jung knew there was a river, walked to the
rivers edge, but didn't stick his toe in. Bert Hellinger has us standing in
the middle of that river."
"Facilitators are out there on the skinny branches."
Thanks for these pearls Ellen, (Christine Essen), and Gary. They help
crystallize my question.
First, I don't want to take away or diminish the successes we achieve. As
Gary correctly points out, we can do our jobs well even if our group
participants are overly attached to their stories. In my example, what's
most important is that the mother and daughter who were in crisis are now in
a better place.
My question involves a smaller, less important point. Still, it is
important to me because it stands as an obstacle to expanding the reach of
Constellations in the directions that Alan suggested.
Say a person who is facing an overwhelming crisis is referred to me. She
does not know me or Constellations, but the situation is so serious and
other approaches have not worked.
She asks, "Tell me about what you do, so I can decide whether to participate
in your circle."
I can answer,
A) I use a creative European approach for fostering peace and reconciliation
in difficult relationships. Best known as a Systemic
<http://www.hiddensolution.com/constellation%20description.html>
Constellation, this gentle, nearly-silent group process transforms
emotional, physical or relationship problems. A Constellation circle is
neither psychotherapy nor a spiritual practice.
Or B) Freud knew there was a river. Jung knew there was a river, walked to
the river's edge, but didn't stick his toe in. I'll have you standing in the
middle of that river.
Implied in this metaphor, is the promise that she won't drown or be swept
away in it. It begs the question: Standing on what in the middle of the
river? If Freud didn't and Jung didn't, why should she trust plunging in
with me?
The first answer is slightly more inviting, but leaves her quite unprepared
for the actual experience. The second answer is more revealing about the
experience of Constellations, but will people agree to it?
This is not simply about what to write on our fliers and websites. The
adoptive mother in my case example did not know what she was getting herself
into. Perhaps if she had been better prepared - if my description had been
more clear and accurate - it would not have taken 6 months for her to come
around to appreciating it.
The lack of a good vocabulary for describing what a Constellation is holds
back the advancement of the work along the lines that Alan envisions. Let's
keep working on it and sharing our successes and those dreaded "learning
lessons."
The Change Dancer
Dan
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