Leslie, I don't have extensive experience with honor cultures in
constellations, but I have a few thoughts which may be useful:
"Honor," in its various forms, is a familial/cultural narrative much like other
narratives along the lines of "we are victims," "we are survivors," "we must
rule to survive," and the many other variations we see in and out of
constellations. It's sometimes helpful to know something of the cultural and
historical context, but still, in the phenomenological perspective, the focus
is on how the individual client is positioned/has positioned himself (or
herself) within the narrative and the family system.
Honor-based cultures have their own flavor of what we might call dysfunctions,
as, for example, "You are the elder, therefore you have to take care of me, and
I will take advantage of that while paying lip service to your seniority." To
my mind, that dynamic is simply a variant on being inappropriately "big" in the
system.
Historically, cultures which expected young men (or second sons or whatever) to
leave the group had shared expectations about where the young men would go to
"make their fortune" or make a new life. A combination of globalization,
population growth and therefore no "empty" places to go, and modernization have
disrupted those shared expectations. That creates cognitive dissonance in the
family system, with the probability of increased refusal/inability to see "what
is" in the present.
I hope that's at least a little bit helpful.
Deborah Gavrin Frangquist
Career Consultant for Life Balance, Personal Growth, Stress Management
415-346-6121; mobile 415-642-0225
www.ChosenFutures.com
--- In ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, "Leslie Nipps" <lnipps@...> wrote:
I am doing a constellation this Sunday for a young man of Sicilian descent,
and I would love your insights and experience with.
1) "Honor-based" cultures.
2) The situation is which the young man is ejected from the family for
being a threat to the established order (rather like young male stallions
being ejected from the herd to protect the lead stallion's harem).
Thanks in advance for any experience you've had with these and related
themes in the constellation context!
Peace, Leslie
The Rev. Leslie Nipps, NLP & Family Constellations Practitioner
"Trust as a Way of Life..."
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