Hello Oscar. While this can, in NO way, be a diagnosis of any kind, the
responses you mention from these people reminds me of people I know who have
Asperger's syndrome. They are often quite bright and curious but miss many
signals on the human social level. I do know one Asperger's person who
attended constellations and usually was polite, stiff, and apparently not
connected. He surprised us finally when being selected as someone's
grandparent he literally fell to the floor sobbing with the exhaustion and
effort of getting himself and his wife out of Germany during the Holocaust.
This man's live-in girlfriend was standing with her mouth open, Never having
seen him show emotion. Read a bit about Asperger's and see if it fits your
experiences with these folks. (Your observation that they are 'in their
head' is totally relevant. They need to figure things out, and are usually
willing to hear that there are other ways than scientific logic, but they
need a clue to start thinking that way, emphasis on the word Thinking and
not feeling.)
Anne Beversdorf
