[bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
- From: Grandma Cindy <popularplace@xxxxxxxxx>
- To: bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Mon, 4 Dec 2006 23:18:45 -0800 (PST)
E,
"Do you need help," or "Can I help you," is o.k., in
my mind, but I wouldn't like "Are you all right"
unless it's evident that something is wrong with me,
like I'm gasping for breath, or have fallen down or
something.
JMO
Cindy
--- Elizabeth and Burton <thoth93@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
> Reality is grabbing someone, particularly a woman
> without asking first is a
> stressful and possibly dangerous experience for the
> person being
> grabbed. I understand the need to help. I will
> stress in the book what we
> all know and have been trying to stress and will use
> humor to do it. The
> human being is equipped with a mouth and the ability
> to use it. Please
> let's learn the following phrases. Repeat after me
> children:
> "May I pet your dog."
> "Do you need help."
> alternatives to "Do you need help" include "Are you
> all right?"
>
> The implicit thing often thought is "I am worried
> about you. Do you need
> help?" (can I stop worrying) and the other question
> is "I have nobody to
> help and here is a person I can help." I do not
> like this attitude much
> since I dislike being an object attracting folks who
> feel so non-needed and
> attracting them for their needs not my help By the
> way, you can tell that
> kind. Those are the ones who keep insisting and
> hang on after you have
> said you do not need help.
>
> On a more ominous note, I think there are men who
> physically grab blind
> women for the same reason they would like to grab or
> touch a woman or any
> kind. You can tell this kind because he is the one
> who tries to cop a feel
> of my tit while I am hholding his arm to cross a
> street.
>
> Bottom line, I thin, is that anyone needs to be at
> least a bit concerned
> about somebody grabbing them particularly in
> situations where he might be
> trying to pick your pocket or such. The fact is
> many of that kind are put
> off some by dogs.
>
> I also think women who are blind get physically
> contacted more than do
> blind men. Somebody from AFB wrote a NY Times
> article about it a few years
> ago. I will do my best to get ahold of it. I want
> AFB in on the book
> project in some way, by the way.
>
> This thing really might take off.
>
> E.
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