I know "all right?" says more about their fear than mine but it is a legitimate question and personally does not bother me. In fact, unless somebody interrupts me while I am doing something else and demands I pay attention to them or actually grabs me I don't care much what they say while I am walking. I spent twenty years in Manhattan and people's street comments just roll off me unless they plant themselves in front of me or directly interfere.
For instance "That lady is blind, look." is just a fact of life on a busy street with a lot of street people and homeless.
E. At 02:18 AM 12/5/2006, you wrote:
E, "Do you need help," or "Can I help you," is o.k., in my mind, but I wouldn't like "Are you all right" unless it's evident that something is wrong with me, like I'm gasping for breath, or have fallen down or something. JMO Cindy --- Elizabeth and Burton <thoth93@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote: > Reality is grabbing someone, particularly a woman > without asking first is a > stressful and possibly dangerous experience for the > person being > grabbed. I understand the need to help. I will > stress in the book what we > all know and have been trying to stress and will use > humor to do it. The > human being is equipped with a mouth and the ability > to use it. Please > let's learn the following phrases. Repeat after me > children: > "May I pet your dog." > "Do you need help." > alternatives to "Do you need help" include "Are you > all right?" > > The implicit thing often thought is "I am worried > about you. Do you need > help?" (can I stop worrying) and the other question > is "I have nobody to > help and here is a person I can help." I do not > like this attitude much > since I dislike being an object attracting folks who > feel so non-needed and > attracting them for their needs not my help By the > way, you can tell that > kind. Those are the ones who keep insisting and > hang on after you have > said you do not need help. > > On a more ominous note, I think there are men who > physically grab blind > women for the same reason they would like to grab or > touch a woman or any > kind. You can tell this kind because he is the one > who tries to cop a feel > of my tit while I am hholding his arm to cross a > street. > > Bottom line, I thin, is that anyone needs to be at > least a bit concerned > about somebody grabbing them particularly in > situations where he might be > trying to pick your pocket or such. The fact is > many of that kind are put > off some by dogs. > > I also think women who are blind get physically > contacted more than do > blind men. Somebody from AFB wrote a NY Times > article about it a few years > ago. I will do my best to get ahold of it. I want > AFB in on the book > project in some way, by the way. > > This thing really might take off. > > E. > > To unsubscribe from this list send a blank Email to > bksvol-discuss-request@xxxxxxxxxxxxx > put the word 'unsubscribe' by itself in the subject > line. To get a list of available commands, put the > word 'help' by itself in the subject line. > > ____________________________________________________________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? Everyone is raving about the all-new Yahoo! Mail beta. http://new.mail.yahoo.com To unsubscribe from this list send a blank Email to bksvol-discuss-request@xxxxxxxxxxxxxput the word 'unsubscribe' by itself in the subject line. To get a list of available commands, put the word 'help' by itself in the subject line.
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