Hello Deborah,
from translating most of Bert's books and from what he said in courses, I
feel that
perhaps being grounded, having enough life experience of one's own, having
integrated the joys and pains of life, being at peace with fate, or at
least able to return to peace,
being able to embrace and to contain the client's fate, the client's family
fate,or even of larger units all the way to nations, being in touch with
our core, which, as Bert tells us, feels light, "Die Mitte fühlt sich
leicht an." being able to bear what comes our way, and being able to bear
another's pain, rather than wanting it to go away because we can't bear it,
com-passion, these are desirable qualities of a fc practitioner, and Bert's
books of recent years are mostly about helping us to get there. The concept
of weight I have heard him use when he speaks of someone's fate. In this
sense, Bert calls a life of ease a "light" life, and one of many
difficulties a life that has weight. perhaps we can say, a constellator has
as much weight as what s/he can carry deeply, and yet, after some
integration, also lightly. the heavy part of the weight is about what is
carried, and the light part of the weight is that we can stand in it
feeling wide open and light, in touch with the source of all fate.
He also said that constellation work is rather something for the second
half of life, so we can speak and feel from experience.
But then, some young people have brought the wisdom with them, and remember
from a young age. I have had great therapy from children. Their wisdom
comes straight from the heart and goes straight to the heart, at least this
is how I have experienced it.
best wishes,
Angelika
On Sat, Jan 5, 2013 at 2:59 AM, deborahgf <choices@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
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Hello Everyone: I'm looking for specific statements Bert Hellinger made
about the "weight" of the facilitator as a factor in constellations. When I
trained, I was taught that it's phenomenologically important not to assert
more or less weight as facilitator than one actually possesses - and that
weight is affected by factors such as age & life experience or by being a
parent, as well as by training and experience as a facilitator.
I find this an important and useful concept, but I wonder where it comes
from. Can anyone guide me to specific statements - either in English or
German - from Hellinger himself? Please send directly to me at
choices@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx or Deborah@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx - and if I get
useful replies I'll compile them and send to the group for everyone.
Thanks so much,
Deborah Gavrin Frangquist
Career & Life Design for Professionals, Artists & Executives
415-346-6121; mobile 415-642-0225
www.ChosenFutures.com
