Hello,
I'm not an expert. but what I get and have gotten from my Ancestral deaths
and the Field.is allow it to move at its own pace. try not to superimpose
any beliefs of shoulda, woulda, coulda onto it. Bert has said much grief
passes on to later generations because it is not processed during the
initial time of the death. Be sad, support your sister and nephews/nieces.
He was what he was but also a Husband and father plus a son who probably had
systemic broken relationships in his own system and suffered greatly. I
would NOT treat him as a junkie/druggie, even though he may have been one.
He was a good man trying to cope. Allow everyone the dignity of
unconditional love without judgment of his behaviors. Hugs, kisses,
sincerity are what I find best. What Bert has stated many times we get so
distracted from HOW or Why we forget to fully grieve at the appropriate time
the Present. while it is happening.blame is generally how we escape our
loss. I'll be happy to send you a poem or 2 which helps transform grief (if
you'd like) As I age I find death is harder on the living than the departed.
Sincerely Gary Stuart LA, CA Gary@xxxxxxxxxxxx
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[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Steve Vinay Gunther
Sent: Wednesday, January 23, 2008 11:51 PM
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [ConstellationTalk] Funeral
Hi folks...I am wanting some advice.
My sister's husband died yesterday, of a heart attack. He was 44. On
and off smack over many years, on methadone for the last 6 years.
Busted recently, but then just got back to counselling and methadone.
He had some kind of bipolar condition. A relatively harmless sort of
a guy. My sister, schizophrenia, but pretty sane since having two
kids, who are 6 and 8.
So now I face supporting her with the whole funeral process, which
will probably take place in a few weeks. I have never been to a
funeral, so its all new to me. I am interested in approaching the
whole thing with intelligence, reflectivity, and awareness of the
wider field. But no idea really what is going to work better. Apart
from simple care, and support, which is of course a lot, I am
interested in what details to attend to on a systemic level.
Any thoughts, input, experience welcome.
Vinay Gunther
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