Dear Carolyn and all dear friends
Thank you for everyone’s contributions which continue to enrich me and stretch
me lovingly. Thank you.
Caroyln, dear Constellation Sistar*
Wow! Thank you.
Together, we are making a very delicious healing soup.
Thank you all dear fellow travelers for your voices.
Blessings & Love
Anutosh Foo
www.anutoshhealingarts.com
On Aug 4, 2014, at 12:04 PM, 'Carolyn Zahner' cpzahner@xxxxxxxxxxxx
[ConstellationTalk] <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Hello All,
Thank you, Alison for bringing this important and continuing question to this
forum.
Thank you, Eimear for bringing the specific issue out of the shadows.
Thank you, to all of the other teachers who have contributed so richly to
this thread.
For me, the Field does not rely on the form, structure or rules of
Constellations but rather, Constellations rely on the Field. Whether through
the process of Constellations or some other form, approaching this place
requires openness to wholeness: the deep place of silence, the grounded work
of analytical capacity and the personal power and maturity to find one’s
voice in the co-creative process while respecting the process of another.
As Alison beautifully expressed:
“..it is Silence that holds the sacred.
It is also true that the sacred permeates all, and words can and do speak
from a genuine Truth - so it would be a misconception to say that words do
not also convey the sacred! (I don't know that anyone is suggesting that, I
just felt the need to acknowledge). Yet, we all know how words can distort
and seem to separate us from the deeper Truth. Yes.”
While words can distort and seem to separate us from the deeper Truth, for
me, it is also true that a dogmatic “rule” of forced silence can equally
distort to the “Truth” – and enable denial of the “Truth”. As many others in
this thread have pointed out, the dogmatic “rule” for silence is a very
different thing than the “guideline” and sacred need for silence – in the
moment, within the process - as described by Vinay, Anutosh and so many
others.
I deeply value the questions and introspection that Katia invites us into.
I deeply value the clarity that Anni offers regarding the deep and pervasive
constructs that have historically commanded silence – falsely claiming
“sacredness” to gain and maintain power and dominance resulting in fear based
compliance to silence.
I deeply value Leslie’s wisdom in reminding us of our tendencies for parental
transference. I do not look for the “Father” or “Mother”. I look for the
“inspired teacher/ facilitator” who is humble enough to be willing to hear
and learn from the wisdom and voice of the student/seeker. When in the place
of “teacher/facilitator” I hold myself accountable to do the same – and know
I will be humanly imperfect at it.
If a question, or issue continually comes up for many and out of the larger
Field, perhaps the issue deserves wholeness - both sacred silence and sacred
voice. When we find ourselves as teacher, do we believe ourselves to be so
above our own humanness, our own entanglements, to not explore the intention
behind any “rules” of silence? Or the intention behind our judgments of who
is of value, who is “ready,” or who is too small to be here or there?
Perhaps we are called to maintain full adult responsibility for our own
processes whether we are in the role of teacher or student. From the sacred
silence, from our own ancestors, we may find not only permission to speak,
but in some instances, even a responsibility to do so. While I may value and
maintain the Sacredness of Silence, I can also choose not to be silenced out
of fear. I look for inspired (and inspiring) teachers, colleagues and
students who are willing to include and embrace The Sacred Voice that comes
out of The Sacred Silence.
In Gratitude,
Carolyn
Carolyn Zahner, MSW, LISW, Inc
513-697-0260
Private Practice, Integrative Psychotherapy
www.carolynzahner.com
