Dear Vinay
What you describe is very helpful if you think of the level of behaviour,
emotions and opinions about emotions.
When it is about real life-issues like serious crimes things are a bit
different. If you are killed, you don't have much options. Fate doesn't
allow us that much free will as we usually think
Kind regards
Margreet Mossel
www.opstellingen.com <http://www.opstellingen.com/>
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[mailto:ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx] Namens Steve Vinay Gunther
Verzonden: dinsdag 4 maart 2008 19:59
Aan: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Onderwerp: [ConstellationTalk] Re: Crime and punishment
Many years ago I came across the writings of Claude Steiner, who was
one of the original contributors to the Rescue triangle concept, and
he had some interesting things to say on it.
His formula for cooperative living was this:
No lies
No rescues
No powerplays
He defines a lie as not speaking up for what you want. So stepping
out of the victim position involves speaking up for what you want,
all of the time, knowing that you wont always get it.
No rescues means not doing too much more thatn 50% of the work. In
terms of giving and taking, this obviously means staying in a
reasonably balanced position.
No powerplays means not forcing others to do what they dont want to
do. Working by agreement.
I have found these straightfoward guides helpful to understand
stepping out of the triangle. If you are interested, I wrote a piece
on it at
http://gestalt. ;<http://gestalt.org.au/vinay/triang.html>
org.au/vinay/triang.html
Vinay
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