I agree with you John that it is useful to embrace a relativist perspective
and that it is a good idea to hold our theories lightly. Relativism
remains quite valid approach that keeps our minds open.
Nonetheless, at the same time, there are some theoretical approaches that
are much more useful because of their directness, simplicity and capacity
for predicting future outcomes. That is the basis of science. For example,
these days, we don't usually talk about the sun revolving around the earth,
which was the popular Western conception before Copernicus. Those who dared
to talk about the earth revolving around the sun, at that time, were
declared heretics. However the idea of the sun being at the centre of a
solar system has prevailed because of its ease of use. We use it to predict
eclipses etc.
Similarly the model I have been presenting about shame, minimises
unnecessary heartache and maximally expedites movement towards integration
and health. It predicts outcomes and can guide behaviour in a helpful way.
I see great value in giving preference to this model for those reasons
Cheers
Chris Walsh
Melbourne, Australia
ph +61 (0)3 9420 1425
www.cwalsh.com.au
On Sat, Mar 26, 2016 at 6:44 AM, lynxdn@xxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk] <
ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Hi,
@Crhis, I see there are many perspectives. For a long time I did a lot of
dreamwork. I ran a community meet-up that presented and discussed dreams.
We had no home school of thought, and I accepted all workshop proposals and
simply added them to the schedule.
I finally understood that each person's dreamer self learns to present its
symbolism in a way that aligns with how the other part of that person's
mind preferred to work with them. Some people are very interested in
transpersonal and global-themed dreams, and that's what they got. Others
preferred Freud's method or had an analyst that used Freud's frame, and
that's what they got. Other's liked Jung, or Gestalt, or ... and that's
what they got. Paganini, the violinist, famously competed against the devil
on the violin in a dream. And Singer, the inventor, received the key change
needed to perfect his sewing machine in a dream.
I'm witnessing a similar process with *shame.* There may not be one way or
one language for shame. As there is a popular book called the five
languages of love—and I run a workshop on the five distinct types of
forgiving—maybe all our emotions have various modes of expression and
within ourselves we learn to experience and express/repress them according
to a personal conscious/intuitive heuristic.
John Perkins, Seattle, WA USA
