Thanks dear Stephen
I appreciate every word and advice, and as you ssay, there´s a lot o
patients/clients waiting for / looking for "magical healing" (without the
heavy lifting)
I hope to see you soon in the neighborhood!
Un fuerte abrazo,
Julio
2011/8/22 Stephen Campbell <coachuno@xxxxxxxxx>
Julio,
The state your client arrived in at your office did not occur overnight. It
took years to develop and it has festered for equally as long. As you well
know and we have spoken of this many times there are "instant" healings and
you have been party to those in our work together. For the most part, in my
experience, a Constellation shifts one or more elements of the fractal. So,
the "job' is not finished per se. It is a process and our work as
facilitators is to initiate it and assist our clients to regain their
capacity to access their own resources to live a fully empowered and
fruitful life and to honor and respect the system which has brought them to
us.
The disconnect occurs within both Peruvian culture as well as most others I
have been priveledged to work in that someone has had what appears to be
"magical results" with a Constellation and so recommends the process to a
friend or acquaintance who comes expecting equal and instantaneous magic.
Magic does occur in each and every Constellation I have facilitated or have
in some way been a participant in. However, magic is not related to linear
time and culturally many have the misconception that it is. Thus, don't
understand or appreciate that they have gotten to where they are over time.
In some cases it is a lifetime(s). And thus the solution or cure also takes
time and the destination may have some bumps along the road. Moreover, my
own experience in natural medicine as well as facilitating constellations
is
that is probably more common when a *true* healing has occurred that the
client/patient does pass through a process commonly known as a "healing
crisis". Bear in mind that those "healing crises" are as dissimilar as
grains of sand or rocks on the river shore. Some are polished and some have
some particularly rough edges so the feel of the experience can be quite
different. This sensation is even more pronounced when you have been
acculturated to instant pain relief and your grain of sand or stone has
very
rough edges.
Recently, my brother-in-law shared the manuscript of a soon to be published
book. In it, the author brilliantly spoke to concept of the symptom is your
friend. So, the pervasive sadness your client spoke of in the interview is
her friend and is there to be lovingly worked with, acknowledged, accepted
and released. If it lingers over time then all of it was not dealt with and
further work is an option.
From what you have shared she seemed to be dispersed in what she wanted
from
a Constellation. You said little about her 20 year old daughter but I am
very clear that her son's addictive behaviors may only tangentially related
to her sadness of both a potentially absent father and a mother that from
her perspective did not protect her from her abuse experience(s). To me her
sadness and her son's drug issues as very separate issues and to expect a
cure all from a given Constellation is just not realistic.
Pain is a natural phenomena. Suffering, however, is optional and is a
product of resisting what is so.
Knowing how conscientiously and with such great compassion that you work
your client was well served. She may not like the results; and, all that
says is there is more work to do.
Un fuerte abrazo,
Stephen
Stephen Campbell
SYSTEMIC CONSTELLATION FACILITATOR / CONSTELADOR SISTÉMICO
MA, R.SC.P., MPNLP (HEALTH), ND
USA: T. 904.430.0248 / 213.985.2368
Perú: T. (511) 586.8067 / C. (511) 995.512.315 / RPM # 601922
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On Mon, Aug 22, 2011 at 06:18, Bettina Casimir
<bc.selfdiscovery@xxxxxxxxx>wrote:
**am
Dear Julio! One of my wake-ups as facilitator was to become clear that i
not rescuing, but empowering!in
(sweet surrender)
What is very helpful to me and our group is to set an intention (each
individually) before each session.
A good point to start as facilitator with this process of empowerment.
So, thank you to remind me about using clarity and purpose at every step
this work...(suggestions,
It sounds to me that you could work with her about the issues around her
remark: "I don't want to doubt aboutyour professionalism, but my children
and I are worse and worse; tell me what can we do". There are a bunch of
hints in there.
Clearly she is willing to do more work and so allowing her to explore her
blindspots and expectations (leading to sadness),
as well as giving her the space to experience empowerment and a sense of
Self vs. other character strategies is a great gift.
Interesting that she came into your life... huh?!
Namaste,
Bettina
...let what you love be who you are...
________________________________
From: Julio Príncipe <principejulio@xxxxxxxxx>
To: ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sent: Sunday, August 21, 2011 9:58 PM
Subject: [ConstellationTalk] about healing and crisis process
please)her
Dear all:
A week ago, a woman came to me for a constellation work. She was referred
by
another person (also a referred), and before our individual session, she
participated in a workshop I led.
In the interview process she talk about her family, a sexual trauma of
childhood, and also about her sons (a girl of 20s and a boy of 16; theboy
is in drugs on these days). After that, she chose to work on her"sadness".
with
A couple of days after the constellation work, she wrote me talking about
how the situation with their kids were "worst". I respond by saying that
sometimes there are crisis before healing; never happened to me before
another client, but could be. I was avalaible if she was needed me.about
Tonight, there's an e-mail in my inbox saying: "I don't want to doubt
your professionalism, but my children and I are worse and worse; tell me"a
what can we do".
At this point, I have some learnings; for example: I didn't felt she was
100% clear about her constellation "issue"; but it was clear to us that
good result" would be leave my office with more peace and quiet feelingsfirst
(what, in fact, happened).
What I think is to meet with her again, and help finding other resources.
Your comments and suggestions will be very valuable, because it's the
time I have this kind of situation with a client.
a big hug,
Julio Principe
Peru
PS.- I appreciate your understanding and apologize for my English (is not
my
first language)
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