Re: [ConstellationTalk] finally resolving my cyber-constellation
- From: Alison Rose Levy <LevyAR@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- To: <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Mon, 28 Nov 2005 12:43:09 -0500
Dear Tom:
Maybe it's just me or maybe I'm representing the people who would like you
to deal with your process with a facilitator in a workshop setting rather
than in a cyberspace. You're a fascinating guy and a clever writer, and
perhaps you had to do a lot of entertaining in your family-- so that to
assure that you belong you are engaging the group in this manner-- so let me
just say-- you belong. You belong.
Now basta, and go do your process on your own with your able container and
associates there on the west coast as I know you have the strength to do.
I'd love to hear the occasional update as well as your thoughts on other
people's issues, and other topics,
And for those among us who want to be a more intimate and ongoing part of
Tom's process, I hope you will connect with Tom via his personal email..
With much love,
Alison
On 11/28/05 12:10 PM, TomBuoyed@xxxxxxx at TomBuoyed@xxxxxxx wrote:
--- In ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, EJ52@A... wrote:
Dear Thomas,
I think you have been representing Jesse James, a constellator from the
midwest of America, whose work is well known. I believe his Family
Constellations with Cole Younger and Frank Dalton to be the best ever
recorded. He also was a chronicler of train traffic and small town banks. A
major difference between you two is that he did not know Eddie Z.
Ed
_____________________
Dear Ed,
Wow, what an eye- and heart-opening response! I was convinced that I was
representing someone still alive, but now you make me realize that I had
been excluding the dead ones. Shame on me. And Duh! Here I am posturing
during the month of November, when the Dead Ones are to be celebrated, and I
fail to consider that I might be representing one of their ilk.
And with the offering of Jesse James, that inspires me to create an old
fashioned Wild West wanted poster.
___________________________________________
WANTED: DEAD OR ALIVE!!!
The person Thomas is representing
in his cyber-constellation
_____________________________
I'm also very heartened by the Jesse James attribution as you touch upon the
systemic dynamics of robbery. Stealing in any form seems to be an expression
of an interrupted movement in taking what the parents have to give. In
adult life, this can manifest as a deeply unconscious sense of entitlement
where someone takes from the public treasure house of society what could not
be taken easily from Mom and Dad. It may also be that the robber on the lam
then carries the guilt of the parents as his own even after he is captured
and put away in the pen.
I may not be robbing physical banks in this lifetime, but as for "soul
banks?" That's worthy of a full FC.
Now, Ed, as a reward for putting forth a candidate for me, I have conjured
up a nickname for you, a proper sobriquet that will express your (systemic?)
essence --- at least as far as I know you, which is not much right now.
However, what first came to mind was:
Easy Eddie Lynch
mainly because of the ease with which you work with the dead ones in
constellations. However an extended name also came up.
Over Easy Eddie Lynch
I'll let you decide which is more fitting and when I get to know you more,
perhaps a new and improved name may emerge.
I'm also so glad that you got to know Eddie Z. in Portland. And by the way,
for the benefit of all you CT members out there, Edward Zawidowski told me
specifically that if I did not refer to him as Uncle Eddie on the CT forum,
he would feel insulted.
However, I was moved to change his name from Uncle Eddie to a more fitting
Fast Eddie.
At our first training session, we were discussing the CT "flap" over my
references to Uncle Bert, etc., which were judged disrespectful and offended
several people here. While I do feel sorry for offending those people and I
even feel the need to apologize to them, I also have to realize that we are
facilitators in training here, and we need to go beyond personal sympathies
and antipathies brought up by each other.
So, my fellow CT colleagues: I honestly did not consciously intend to insult
or show disrespect to Bert Hellinger. Over the last three months, I have
become conscious of a lot of the perp energy I have been carrying, and much
of that due to my "constellation twin" Stefan Bajon, who expressed great
insight into my situation in his recent post.
(Stefan and I have represented each other and each other's family members
(even each other's bodies fer Chrissake!) in many constellations here in
L.A. so I'm happy that he can act as a real grounding kind of older brother
figure for me when I get too rambunctious on this forum.)
At any rate, I do apologize to all on the list who may have been offended by
my Frank Farrelly type references to Bert. And thank you Over Easy Eddie for
smoothing the way this morning for me to discharge a lot of this tension
hanging in the cyber-air.
Thomas
PS Perhaps you may gain some insight into my character or lack of it, if
you realize that I have been a high school teacher of math and physics. Just
imagine being locked up in a room for an hour with 25 teenagers and your job
is to get them to do what they don't really want to do. And you are trapped
inside together until the bell rings. That may possibly explain why my
"threshold of disrespect" may be a lot higher than the normal. I mean if
you want to be an MD, you have to be able to overcome the natural recoiling
emotions related to blood, gore and broken bodies. Similarly, high school
teachers develop an analogous immunity to insults, name-calling and other
joyous expressions of raging adolescence. I have to realize that I am now
in a cyber classroom of sorts with adults where I am representing my own
systemically arrested adolescence, not to mention the Catholic Church as
Stefan points out so deftly.
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