Dear Jo and All,
when an "I forgive you" statement came spontaneously from a representative
i suggested on several occasions to try instead "I accept you" and
invariably it was felt by the representative to be more fitting, more relaxing.
Looking a little further at the two sides of forgiving: giving up
resentment and pardoning
clearly the first is appropriate behavior among equals -as painfully as it
may have been arrived at-; whereas the latter -i agree with Patrick-
implies an imbalance between the giver and receiver; a pardon can only come
from a higher authority like a state appointed judge or as Otteline hinted
at, from God Herself.
Max
At 15:04 5/05/04 +1000, you wrote:
Greetings All.
And thank you for the wonderful topic! Are you saying that a representative cannot feel the impact of the forgiving statement therefore alerting the facilitator to more work to be done if they feel for instance superior? When a person gains a better understanding during a constellation when the entangement is brought to light, would their overlaying feelings gradually dissipate and gain the inner peace you talk of? I can accept that a forgiving statement is inappropriate as you describe it, but what to do to enable the client to let it go/move the healing along? Perhaps a sentence relating to understanding would do the trick?
Be Loved.
Jo Fenwick
