Dear Annie,
Most of our dealings with other human beings, including those in our
families, dont reach the deep soul level that is reached in Constellations.
Also, you will see this deep closeness with military brothers and others who
have gone thru tragedies together and shared their emotions. It seems to me
that what you are experiencing is a deep bonding process with other humans,
which is OK.
I feel the same with the people in my training class after being with them
for two years and living each others tragedies and successes thru our
constellations. I also feel this bonding with people who were my friends in
the 70s whose tragedies I shared when they went thru divorces and
remarriages. People who open up their emotions to each other seem to bond
because they understand and accept each other and can be real with each
other. I dont really see a problem unless, for example, a person is going
to the former representative of mother and expecting mothering.
Diane Yankelevitz
diane@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
406-586-2376
www.WisdomHealing.com
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Sent: Sunday, May 27, 2007 2:45 PM
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Subject: [ConstellationTalk] lingering transference issues
Dear colleagues,
As a constellator in New York City I have observed a phenomenon both
within myself and some participants in my groups. I'd appreciate any
comments you may have concerning lingering transference issues.
My initial training as a facilitator was completed five years ago.
Despite initial clearing exercises and the passage of time,I still
retain strong feelings for those group members who represented in my
personal constellations. These feelings persist despite my real-life
knowledge and continued exposure to these people.Participants in my
group have experienced the same phenomenon resulting from powerful
personal work, despite the clearing exercises and cautions that I
offer in our workshops.
I haven't experienced these transferences as a problem, but it
certainly is something of which to be mindful.
Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions?
Annie Block Pearl, M.S.
Integrative Therapy
Systemic, Structural and Family Constellations
ordained Interfaith Minister
www.annieblockpearl.com
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