I¹m not sure what I¹d do (I really need to be in the field to have a good
guess), but when there is something not moving, when love can¹t flow
properly again, something has not been included in the system. An event, a
person, a perspective, a feeling, etc. The rep for the son will be able to
feel the flow of love again when whatever that is is included. As the
facilitator, you are in the best position to notice what that might
beeither because you know the client¹s history, or because you can begin to
feel into the field for ³what¹s missing.²
If I¹m really really stuck, I will sometimes literally put a rep in for
³what¹s missing.² This can often help a constellation that is not
completing, and the ³usual² movements, the history of the client, or the
expression of the constellation itself isn¹t making it clear what that is.
Peace, Leslie
The Rev. Leslie Nipps, NLP & Family Constellations Practitioner
³Trust as a Way of Life²
www.leslienipps.com
leslie@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
From: Constellation Talk <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Reply-To: Constellation Talk <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Date: Mon, 15 Sep 2014 09:16:11 -0400
To: Constellation Talk <ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Subject: Re: [ConstellationTalk] on issue holders feeling humiliation
I would put in a rep for the fathers trauma which generated so much
humiliation.
The son can look at the rep and tell the father that he
sees the source of his pain ..... However it is not his to carry
for his father...he is the child and the father is the parent.
The son may even hand back that burden of pain and humiliation
he has been carrying for his father to him.
He could also say to his father " he was just a child and I did not
understand."
Best Regards
Harrison Snow
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On Sep 13, 2014, at 6:12 PM, "liz.sleeper@xxxxxxxxx [ConstellationTalk]"
<ConstellationTalk@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
At a workshop i ran yesterday, a client, after a long difficult piece of work,
was finally able to experience some small and clearly much yearned for eye
contact with the very disconnected and deoresessed representative of his
father, a man who at the age of 9 had been thrown out of home and had had to
fend for himself from that age. when it came to the point that the father
could start to see his son, (the client), the client, with tears in his eyes
reported to me that he found his fathers gaze humiliating. given humiliation
makes one contract and not take in an experience. I would be interested to
hear the groups take on what could have been done to help the client feel
something more empowering. on reflection i wonder if his father had been given
words along the lines of " it takes great courage to recognise your souls
longings, and to see you allowing this fills me with pride" i wld be
interested in the groups thoughts with love Liz
